Are you tired of being seen as a just friend zone type of man. Here's a quick way to prevent that perception from the very beginning. This approach is based on evolutionary biology and psychology that's built into every women's DNA and bodily chemistry.
She's preprogrammed to respond to signals of male dominance. When it comes to sexual attraction, that biological programming is in charge and all logic goes right out the window. Biologically she has no choice in the matter. Historically if she made the wrong choice her very survival and that of any potential offspring were at extreme risk, so her biology and internal chemical message system is rigged to be attracted to men who show certain alpha dominant traits. You show those traits and you're sexual attractiveness skyrockets. And her entire perception of who you are as a man is framed in the first few minutes (actually seconds) of your initial connection.
When you first notice her show dominance by making direct eye contact while showing a sincere smile and hold it for about 3 seconds. If attracted she will return the smile and glance away within that time frame. If instead of glancing to the side or returning her gaze back to her friends she glances down first, she's showing she recognizes your dominance with a submissive subconscious reaction. That's a signal your gaze and smile triggered the first spark of attraction.
At that point it's important to further demonstrate your confidence and dominance by immediately making a direct approach. The point isn't to engage her fully but simply to show you're interested as well as unafraid and to make a quick good first impression and nothing more. The best way to insure you come across as dominant (thus a sexual man) and not just gaming her is to make a connection and then break it off quickly and give her time to wonder about you.
Attraction is very much not much more than a form of curiosity. You can continue the conversation later and it will be easier and even more welcome if you make your initial contact and then give her space and time.
A dominant man shows no fear of approaching a woman, so you must move in for the initial contact right away once she's shown the signs of submissive attraction, no matter how attractive she may be. In fact, a dominant man demonstrates more of that quality the more attractive she is, as it also signifies her beauty is not in the least intimidating.
When you make an quick initial contact and then leave and go about your own socializing or whatever you were doing for a while, you're signaling you're independent, busy and sociable. It also reverses the pattern she's used to where it's obvious when a guy is trying to hit on her, he'll often overstay that initial welcome, even if she showed a slight bit of initial interest. So be the exception and give her space and time to wonder and the attraction will build.
It's also important to be mindful of body posture as a dominant male shows it most clearly with a tall erect stance. One way to take on that kind of posture is to imagine a steel cable running through your head into your spine pulling up as if it's attached to a crane overhead. Stride (do not walk or shuffle) directly to her and say literally anything without self-doubt as you already know she's shown the first signals of attraction. Something as simple as "Hi, Only have a minute, but just want to make sure you didn't get away before we had a chance to meet." Give her a minute to reply, then excuse yourself, mention you might like to talk a bit later and return to whatever you were doing before you noticed her. And that's it.
Later you can reengage her to get her number or start a deeper conversation and you'll find she'll likely be far more warm as while you were busy elsewhere, if you did it right, she'll have been thinking about you or watching you out of the corner of her eye waiting for you to return, if she doesn't approach you herself. She might as you made the required initial response which gives her permission in her own mind to do so without feeling she's being overly assertive and unfeminine.
That simple and brief encounter sets up the chemistry and initial flutters of sexual butterflies which is the whole point and what is most critical to establish the frame of all future interactions with her. Attraction is sparked and you've established yourself as a sexually confident man.
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