Relationship Advice - Can Your Relationship Be Saved?

While some relationships are hard to develop, they can sometimes be even harder to maintain. Although we would all like to find ourselves in a blissful situation with the perfect partner, it unfortunately doesn't always work out that way! So, if you find yourself in a situation that is anything but blissful, what do you do? Do you throw in the towel, or can your intimate relationship be saved?

It may be of little consolation to you for the moment, but the first thing to remember is you are not alone. There is a reason almost half of all marriages end up in divorce. There is a reason why there is so much emphasis placed on the dating scene. And there is a reason why dating services are a multi-billion-dollar-a-year industry.

In a perfect world, finding the "right person" or your "perfect partner" would be easy, and staying with them forever would not require too much effort... everything would flow lovingly. Don't ever make the mistake of starting to think there is something really wrong with you. If that were the case, when it comes to intimate relationships there would have to be something wrong with half of the population at least.

The fact is a happy intimate relationship is quite a process. A happy relationship really only exists if the people involved in it are happy as individuals. If one of the couple is miserable, all of the happiness thrown into the relationship by the other person won't matter. When one partner is unhappy, it can either be because of the relationship, or because of something else going on in their life. Either way, the happy partner is only going to put up with it for so long and after that, the decision on whether or not to save the relationship will have been made for them.

If one partner is unhappy, it has to be worked out why.

First, is it because of the behavior of their partner? If so, the happy partner should be able to pick up on this. If the unhappy partner comes to them and says they have some problems with the relationship, it should not be a shock.

If you are unhappy, and someone asked your partner why you were, in fact, unhappy, what would they say? Would they be able to identify it? Would they know the cause of the unhappiness? And if it was their fault, would they ever admit it?

The bottom line is this: if you are unhappy, you should know why. And, more importantly, your partner also needs to know why.