Monday, April 30, 2012

How To Attract Men With Body Language - 3 Tactics To Lure Any Man

Finding the right man is a difficult process if you don't know what you are doing. Psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania studied data from over 10,000 speed daters and found that most people make a decision regarding a person's attraction within three seconds of meeting. Those findings absolutely prove one thing beyond a shadow of a doubt - ladies you must learn how to attract men with body language as a starting point!

Let's face it, the first signals sent between a man and a woman are non-verbal. The messages you send with your body must be powerful and you have 3 seconds to score the first points.

Ladies we are wonderfully made by our Creator and we have the necessary allurements to make a very definite impression on the men we survey. There are three powerful tactics that work on just about any man and you can become very proficient at making an inviting impression on that handsome man across the room. It may surprise you that the most powerful body language techniques involve body parts that are all above the neck.

Your first signals must be sent with your eyes. Why do you think that we spend so much of our make up budget on the eyes? If you make eye contact with a man in a crowded room the message is unmistakeable. Once eye contact is established you should offer a smile. This is as old as time itself and it has always been the initial first step in the dance. Many women get distracted and glance away just when an additional couple of seconds would send a screaming signal to most men. The key at this point is to not stare or glare. Make eye contact, smile, then look away. You might try a rinse and repeat. If your good looking gentleman doesn't come over to introduce himself then his antenna isn't working.

The second successful tactic is to use your lips. Let's assume your object of desire has come over to your table and introduced himself and engaged in some conversation. If you like what you see and feel interested in further pursuit you could curl your lips in another smile. Smiles are like scoreboards at ball games, they let men know how the game is going. Another tactic would be to gently and subtily lick your lips. Another way of drawing attention to your mouth is to eat something slowly and intentionally. A man gravitates to a woman's lips and you can speak volumes with the lips and tongue!

The final tactic is to speak the language of attraction with your hair. If your encounter is showing signs of promise you could run your fingers through your hair. When a woman runs her fingers through her hair and brushes it away from her face or neck she is sub-consciously exposing more of her skin and there is a powerful effect on most men. A gentle toss of the head can have the same effect.

If all is going well up to this point you might notice your prospective date moving in closer to talk. He might even touch your hand or arm while speaking and it would be appropriate to touch his forearm in response. Hopefully this encounter will end with an exchange of numbers and a blossoming relationship.

Learning the power of body language to attract men gives you a fighting chance in those first 3 seconds!

Ladies - Let the Man Pay to Guarantee Online Dating Success

We've all heard success stories of women who have met their fiancé on an online dating site. On the other hand, we've also heard tales of people who have met pathological liars, those who are already married, and other horror stories.

In thinking over my own online dating experiences and those of my friends, I think one of the problems is that these kinds of stories lead people to approach the whole thing with a kind of silent desperation that makes the whole process heavy and overly serious.

To a degree, this is normal. After all, we are looking for Mr. Right and always hope that he will be the very next guy we contact. We may brag about our new boyfriends to our friends and even practice signing our signature using his last name! And no matter how many times we made get burned, hope in the online dating world springs eternal.

But here's an online dating strategy that I think will work. It could score you your Mr. Perfect. Are you ready for it?

I call it "30 free meals."

Let's say you sign up for an online dating site. The cost of the membership is about $25 a month. You want to recoup the investment by capitalizing on it and getting your money's worth, right?

Well, if you have two dinners out that somebody else paid for, you have already made your money back, and then some!

Now I can already hear it from both the men and the women about how stupid, wrong, sexist, greedy, and ****y that is. I'm still sticking to my plan in principle, however.

Here are the simple rules:

When you go out on the first few dates, he pays.

At first, I was big about paying. I always wanted to pay on the first date that even after that. I wanted to prove my independence and how capable I was. This merely made me attractive to the unemployed!

I now realize that a gentleman likes to pay! He wants to treat the lady and show off a little. He doesn't expect you to hop into bed with him for the price of dinner.

As the relationship continues, you can pick up the tab occasionally, but at first you don't even look at the dinner check when it hits the table. Simply look deeply into his eyes and smile graciously.

Now here's the psychological aspect of it: Don't start worrying about whether you've found Mr. right until you've had your 30 free meals! Don't even think about finding your soulmate as the principal goal here. It's free food!

You don't enter into any relationship where you refer to these guys as your "boyfriend." If you're getting free food, you are successful at the dating game. By thinking of it this way, you keep yourself from taking yourself and the process too seriously.

I'm only speaking slightly tongue-in-cheek here. I am making a serious point. After all, if Mr. Right thinks you're desperate to keep him, he will run like crazy! The only way to make online dating work is to keep it fun and lighthearted.

So think of online dating not as a life or death matter or a win or lose proposition, but merely a way of making your money back on your investment. After all, with this economy it's not a bad bet.

How to Ask the Right Questions When Dating Online

All right, you've joined a couple of dating sites, uploaded your profile, and added a nice photo of yourself. And you gotten a few interested contacts.

Now what? How do you separate the wheat from the chaff, those interested ladies with potential from those without? How do you find the truth about these virtual strangers, not just what they want you to believe about them?

It would be nice if women wore labels such as "Gold Digger," "Drama Queen," "Social Climbing Snob," "Gigolo Seeker" or "Ice Lady," but they don't. So it's up to you to find out these things for yourself (but NOT by asking direct questions).

It also helps to know what mistakes you can avoid making in order to impress the right lady. So here are some great questions to ask that will reveal a lot about her by her answers.

1. In the process of chatting online, and in the course of making small talk, you should ask, "What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating?" Just ask this casually in the course of conversation, and listen carefully to the answers. She's going to reveal a treasure trove about herself and her views on men in general.

2. Another great question is "What do you think about dating (or online dating)?" This will give her an opportunity to tell you about any bad experiences she has had dating online to help you avoid making the same mistakes.

3. Now here's the important one: when the subject of her last relationship comes up, you should ask, "What caused the two of you to break up?"

I say to ask this when the subject of her last relationship comes up in order to avoid seeming to be prying. You can get the subject to come up in the first place by asking coy, casual questions like, "Have you been dating online long," or, "Have you met any other guys through this site?"

Now listen carefully to the answer. If she puts all the blame for the breakup on the other guy, you should take this as a warning signal. If she takes all the blame herself (unlikely) this might also give you pause. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent and accepts some blame herself, you have found the best answer.

Asking the right questions in your initial chats will give you great insights into the other person and make you more confident when you meet her for the first time.

Making A Good First Impression

You have tried long and hard to be able to talk to a woman. And now that you have, you just could not help but wonder if you had been the kind of person that you wanted to project. You sure did have a good conversation with that woman you met. But are you sure she liked your conversation too? Was your first impression a good one? If it was possible, you probably would have recorded everything. If it was possible, you might have taken a look at her mind to see just how well (or how bad) you were doing when it came to your first impression.

Did you know that there is a list that helps you see if you are on the right track? Well, now that you know that something exists, you sure are excited to learn more about how to make a good first impression on that woman you have been eyeing.

Interest. Were you interested in her? Were you interested in what she had to say? It is said that this may not be quite important but it sure does help if you show that lady that you are interested in her and the many things that she has to say.

Of course, it is said that a man should always have a shroud of mystery surrounding him always. This makes women become even more attracted to a man. However, it is also important that you show bits and pieces of yourself. You should make her feel that you are interested in her so that she would not try and find someone who does.

How presentable were you? It should matter. The way you dress, the way you present yourself is extremely important to a woman. After all, a woman is quite a vain creature. If you are with her and you are not in any way presentable, do you think she would go out on a date with you?

Remember, it is said that there is no way you would be able to make a second chance to make another first impression. That is why it is called the first impression. You only get one chance and you need to do it well. Women like men who are presentable. And they believe that a person can tell what kind of person you are by the way you look physically.

You should be decisive. This is a trait that all women really like in men. It is very masculine and it is something that you should learn. Of course, this is something that you can pull out because you want to try it out. It takes practice so you should make sure that you practice decisiveness in your daily activities.

A woman does not like her man to be the needy type of person. That is why you should make sure that you do not look and sound desperate to her. The more you show that you are, the more that the woman would shy away from you.

The Problems of Dating May Boil Down to Poor Communications

No social interaction is without its problems, and dating is no different. The most serious problems of dating occur when two people are not truly compatible with each other.

Proper communication is of paramount importance. Many dating problems can be resolved if the two partners overcome their difficulties in expressing their feelings and learn to be clear about what they want.

However, if it seems to be impossible for the two of you to communicate with each other, it could be that you are not compatible with each other and you do not share the same likes and dislikes. You need to be comfortable with the other person in order to communicate effectively with him or her.

A relationship cannot be forced; If the two of you are too different, or if you have different goals for the relationship, you may find the relationship hard to salvage.

There are many factors that influence our conception of the ideal mate. according to John Money, Professor Emeritus Of Medical Psychology and Pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, One of the most important is what he calls our "love map" - patterns encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. This love map is set by childhood, and it determines the kind of personality that appeals to us.

If the two of you are not compatible with each other, communication will at least help you to realize this and to sort things out.

Another problem is when the two partners have different needs than each other. For example one person may need more space than the other and this can make it difficult for the relationship.

Remember that men and women have different communication styles. Women talk more in terms of feelings, man more in terms of facts.

A woman who's had a hard day at the office may need a shoulder to cry on, while her partner mistakenly tries to minimize the problem. This may cause the woman to think her partner is insensitive.

According to Deborah Tannen, author of "You Just Don't Understand; Men Women and Men In Conversation" "since many men see themselves as problem solvers, a complaint is a challenge to their ability to think of a solution." But, says psychologist Bernie Zilbergeld, author of "The New Male Sexuality" many men are trying to be helpful in a loving way when they try to solve problems.

Understanding that communication problems may crop up can go a long way in determining if your relationship can be salvaged.

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Dating Online - The Next Step

It is a fact now that a great many of us meet and make friends online. The online dating scene is very vibrant and there are numerous online dating agencies to cater for this market and of course lots of dating advice free online to make it very easy and simple.

Some of us however just meet in chat rooms or forums where we hang out because we have an interest in the main theme of the room. In this situation we will of course meet like-minded individuals with similar interests.

Well we think we have a lot in common as we are in the sci-fi chat room, but perhaps this is all we have in common, so really we are just forum buddies.

As time goes on and we find that we are chatting about more general things then perhaps we start to develop an online relationship rather than just an interest in the chat room theme we start to develop an interest in each other.

There is nothing new in this, it is how we all start to build a relationship by getting to know each other. There are lots of singles dating online however we are not dating just building a friendship. No doubt we will start to want to move the relationship on to a face to face meeting and we must be patient about this and make sure it is the right thing to do.

It may be best if we build the relationship online, not via dating sites, but social network sites. If we Facebook each other, then we will get to see if the persona we see in the chat room is the same, also we will get to see some pictures with a bit of luck. Building up slowly like this will help avoid any nasty surprises and we can move on to exchanging messages and then we may move on to live phone calls which will allow more spontaneity and to hear how we sound.

Now we really have a picture of who we think we are building a relationship with and we may even start to wonder if this is our soul mate if we have found the one. At this time we should arrange that all important meet, still we need to be sure and the best way to take this forward is in public place or with friends in a small group.

It will be very difficult if they are great distance between each person but none the less the principles of slow and easy still apply. The opportunity nay arises to attend a function relevant to your chat room and this would present a public opportunity and one where other friends can also attend.

The nest steps must always be slow and easy, dating direct is the last thing and only after we have applied the above points, most dating sites will advise the same public meeting and they make their money from dating online.

Being In Love With A Cancer Man - How To Make An Extra-Emotional Man Love You Forever

Are you dating a man born between June 22 and July 21? Congratulations -- you've found yourself a Cancer man! Cancerians, according to astrology, are among the most loving and emotional lovers you could ever find in the dating game. You'll need a different approach if you want to get on his good side!

Cancer men are often much more emotional than others, so they can be quite sensitive. Here are some things to keep in mind as you go along with dating him:

  • He takes commitment very seriously. So if he truly loves you, it doesn't take much to keep him.
  • He is deep and moody, which can cause problems if you also have a tendency to be emotional.
  • Don't hurt him unnecessarily. Cancer men respond well to constructive criticism and "tough love," but unnecessary pain can make him retreat into his shell.
  • He doesn't forget easily. That means a little goes a long way with him -- whether you're a "little good" or a "little bad" with him.
  • He is romantic, which means a committed relationship with him will be a happy one.
  • He has an ego. My advice: Praise and compliment a Cancer man at least four times more than you criticize him. It's not only good for him, but it's also good for your relationship!
  • Cancer men are among the most loyal you can find in the dating game, so make sure you don't betray that trust. One slip may be all it takes to lose him forever.
  • He makes a great father. Children bring out the kid in him, so prepare for a lighter parenting style than usual if you decide to raise a family with him.
  • Sense of humor. His sense of humor can sometimes be dark at times. If you can, don't criticize his sense of humor -- simply ignoring it can be enough to make it go away.

But of course, don't forget the more "general" dating advice, either. You can check the zodiac charts to see just how compatible you are with a Cancer man, but ultimately the end goal is the same with ANY sign -- and that's to have a wonderful, happy, long-lasting relationship.

Much of being happy in a relationship is all about knowing how relationships work, knowing how his mind works, and knowing how to act, think, and feel when times get challenging. And that's something I can help you with...

Friday, April 27, 2012

Are You Nervous Around Women?

Some people think that a woman's sense of smell is so powerful that she can actually scent fear. I mean literally.

This is not true, of course. Women can't literally smell fear, but they do have many other ways in which they can tell if a man is nervous - by his eye contact, his mannerisms, or that slight waver in his voice.

Let's face it, most women are not looking for a nervous Nellie. In fact, most women would rather be stuck alone in a desert than to try to coddle some basket case.

How to get around this? Bluff!

Don't try to bluff your way into making her think you're some kind of Don Juan, just act more self-confident and you will tend to feel that way. Give me a guy with just enough self-confidence to at least carry on a nice conversation and I am golden.

I don't automatically discount the guy who is a little tongue-tied or who takes a little time to work up the nerve to approach me from the other side of the room. In fact I think it's kind of cute. What's not cute as if he is still sitting in the corner an hour later. Or if he does manage to make it across the room and his efforts to spit out his first and last names are a test of patience.

So what is a nervous guy to do? Just take some advice on how to manage your approach from your friendly neighborhood busty blonde (that's me!).

Oh, and as for something that doesn't work in this situation...you know that advice they give to public speakers to deal with nervousness by picturing the audience in their underwear? Believe me, that would not work on a drop-dead gorgeous woman. If you thought you were stuttering already, try picturing that hot blonde in her lacy intimate wear and you might as well check out right now, bub.

So take a deep breath and slowly let it out. Square up your shoulders and suck in your gut. Remember that the first part of feeling confident is acting confident.

If you're not a born comic, then don't try to use lame jokes to break the ice. How do you know? If your opening line has made the last three women you approached groan, that might give you a good idea!

So what is a good opening line? How about "Hi, my name is John, it's good to meet you."

A handshake is not always expected, but if it is, such as when you're introduced at a party, here's some free advice (I hope I'm not kicked out of the Women's Secret Union for telling you this): Neither hold her hand as if it is brittle or try to show off your machoness with a bone crushing show of strength. Taking her hand gently, but not like a cold fish, is fine. An even more intimate way is by taking her hand in both of yours, while looking her in the eye and giving her a sincere, friendly smile at the same time.

So what about your nervousness? Just remember that women are nervous around you also. Just get over that first awkward feeling and you'll be good to go. You'll never know what beautiful music the two of you could have made together if you watch her walk away with the guy who had a backbone.

Remember, bluff it, and you just may be the one who gets to go home with her tonight, you lucky devil!



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How to Date Gorgeous Ukrainian Ladies While Avoiding Online Cons

A lot of men dream of finding a marriage partner from Russia or the Ukraine, but become the victims of con artists. Research shows that up to 80% of the profiles submitted on free dating services by charming Ukrainian women turn out to be false or partially false. There are those who pretend to be interested in a relationship but really have the goal of swindling you out of your money.

Not everyone is a con artist, of course. Many women are sincere, but still do not provide accurate information about themselves. They may fib about their age, goals or even marital status. They may upload photos that are so old or so drastically altered that you would never even recognize them in real life.

There are steps you can take to protect yourself:

1. Have a healthy suspicion of the large online dating sites. When a woman fills in an online form, you have no guarantee that she did it accurately. If you see a profile for a Ukrainian lady that seems too perfect, and which describes her as well educated, a great cook, well-off, with a great body etc. this could be an indication that there is a scammer involved. The old adage "too good to be true" applies here.

2. Look for an agency at whose office Ukrainian women sign up in person. This way, you will have a far greater assurance that the Russian and Ukrainian women listed in the agency's catalog are legitimate, are sincere about wanting marriage, and have recent pictures.

Trustworthy agencies will not ask you for payment before you are at least able to find out about your selected Ukrainian partners and get a good impression of them.

A reputable agency will not only make an arrangement for your meeting with an eligible Ukrainian woman, but will help you create a long-term relationship with your new fiancé.

The fact that all brides in a catalog are from one town is a good sign. It means that the agency does not accept womens' profiles sent by internet. This way you have a guarantee that you will find a REAL lady who is sincerely motivated to find the man of her dreams.

Look for an agency that offers romantic tours to Kharkiv, Ukraine, clients sincerely seeking marriage, online web chats, antispam protection, visa documents, and most importantly, a written guarantee. This is the best assurance of satisfaction.

6 Tips For Safe Dating Online

online dating can be fun and can put you in touch with a huge variety of potential dating partners very quickly. However, as with everything else, there are some risks involved in your efforts to find your dream girl or Prince Charming. With that in mind here are a few dating tips to help you make your online dating a fun, safe and rewarding experience.

1. Your first lesson in online safety is to watch your profile. Did not reveal private and personal details for everyone to see, and by "private" I'm talking about such things as your real name, telephone number and street address.

Communicate with your potential dating partners at first through the message system provided by the service. When you register with the site, it keeps your contact name and details private so that you can get to know the other person adequately before you reveal your identity. Of course there will be some creeps on any service, but these precautions will keep you protected.

2. Let others, such as friends or relatives, know where and when you are going on your first date. This will add an extra layer of security, as you will know somebody will be looking for you if you do not arrive back at the appointed hour.

3. Once you have found a potential partner and you are ready to arrange your first "real life" date, you should arrange to meet him or her in a public place, such as a restaurant. Do not ask them to come over to your home or even to pick you up. Simply meet at the designated spot.

4. If you have a friend who's dating at the same time, you can arrange to make it a double date, adding an extra layer of security. This can also make the evening more fun and enjoyable, even if your online date turns out to be a bore!

5. After the date, you should arrange for your own transportation to take you home. Either have a friend pick you up or take your own car.

A meal will usually be enough for the first date. This is intended just to be a "getting to know you better activity, not a full evening out. Arranging other activities in addition to the meal would require transportation unless the other venue was within walking distance.

6. Avoid alcohol in your first date. If you must drink, limit it to one or two drinks.

It is important not to get paranoid about meeting an online date, as, no matter how you meet potential partner, whether offline or online, it is always possible to run into someone who is disreputable. Just follow these simple tips and you are ready to have a good time with your new online date.

How You Can Use SMS Technology in Dating and Courtship

What is SMS? It stands for Short Message Service. Wikipedia defines it as "a form of text message communication on phones and mobile phones."

One thing that can benefit your dating and relationships is the advancement of technology. The mobile phone and Internet revolution allows people to communicate when they are separated - even if it is at opposite ends of the planet. These technologies can make them feel closer even though miles apart.

You can impress your significant other with your wit using your mobile phone by sending her funny SMS, love SMS, good morning SMS, goodnight SMS, wise words and anything that establishes a friendly tone. Love quotes and love SMS are some of the most popular e-greetings sent over the Internet.

You can also send funny e-greetings on her e-mail service, but use this technique with discretion and avoid pestering her or distracting her when she may be working.

There are some things to keep in mind in some things you should avoid when using these technologies, especially in the early dating stages of your relationship.

One of these things is sending naughty SMS to the one you are currently courting. This can send out negative signals, and instead of making her laugh, it can cause her to believe that you are only interested in her physical attractions-in short, that you're only interested in getting her into bed. It might also be embarrassing for her if someone glimpses your naughty message to her.

Reserve your naughty SMS for when you're in the established stages of your relationship, and only if she has indicated that she likes such things.

One way to make a good impression is by sending her messages that make her feel important. Ask her how she's doing, wish her a great day and let her know you're looking forward to your next date. The modern day equivalent of whispering sweet nothings in her ear can sometimes be the way to her heart.

SMS can even help if you are still looking for your one and only. Some online dating sites will regularly scout their lists of members to find qualified matches for you that fit the criteria you set, If you have upgraded to the full-service. When such a site finds a match, it will update you by SMS or e-mail.

It is easy to over do SMS text messages, so be sure not to overdo it. Used with discretion, however, it can be a great flirting technique.

Be "Less" of Yourself

The free dating websites are always better. Here are a few basics when messaging a woman: Writing, "How's it going?" or "What's up?" in the subject line of our first email will get a response between 40 to 50% of the time. As hard as it can be, we must refrain from commenting on her photos or physical appearance. The online creep calling her "sexy" freaks her out. Instead, I take a back door approach. I'll comment on how I noticed she was non-religious. Then, I'll let her know that I'm skipping church on Sunday as well, implying that I'm free to meet with her. It is important to make progress after every exchange.

Once she is comfortable with my profile, I'll ask her for a drink. My dates are at the same place: the lounge by my room (Yard House) between 8 and 9 pm. The best thing about the Yard House is that it's a quarter mile from my apartment. Its close proximity gives women less time to change their minds about going into a stranger's bedroom. She is likely to stay wrapped up in the experience during the short jaunt from the lounge to my place.

Thereby, all men should look into choosing a good lounge.

These are the requirements for a good lounge:

1. In close proximity to your bedroom 2. Dim lighting 3. Music that drowns out any dumb shit you may say 4. Booths that allow her to sit next to you 5. Alcohol

I arrive 15 minutes early to reserve a booth (never a table). On my way to the lounge, I recite 4 things in my head to make sure I have my "game face" on. It's always the same five:

Be happy, listen, look into her eyes, ask questions. Be happy, listen, look into her eyes, ask questions. Be happy, listen, look into her eyes, ask questions. Be happy, listen, look into her eyes, ask questions.

Repeating over and over.

Even if I don't feel like talking with anyone, saying this to myself always reminds me to get into character. My goal is to take those four things and translate them into some sexual exploration a few hours later. First, I must be smart. I know logistical errors can ruin my chances. If I get a table, it will feel like an interview. If I don't have my phone on "vibrate" I won't get her phone call. It seems carefully orchestrated but becomes habit after a few dates.

She calls me when she arrives at 8:00 p.m. I'm at the bar having a beer when I receive the call. I pick it up and tell her I'll meet her in front. As I walk up to greet her, the host tells us our booth is ready. The impeccable timing already impresses her.

As we get seated, I've already got those five things ingrained in my head.

As I walk up to the lounge to meet with her, I remind myself "shut the hell up Jamie and remember to listen." I get her seated at a booth, lean back, and ask questions about her life. If she's really gorgeous, I like to start off with a joke that will break the ice and exude confidence, "So just some ground rules, we are just friends getting to know each other, no funny stuff tonight."

July 5th, 2009-My date tonight brought her A-game. Her tall brown leather boots with a matching belt, tight pants, matching necklace and ring, and a cashmere sweater was her "Great Wall of Vagina." She was brought up extremely wealthy, had an MBA from a topnotch University and made half a million a year selling beachfront properties. Within ten minutes she had made it clear, through a number of subtleties, that she would be "untouchable" for the evening. All of her layers were of no concern to me. I have a game plan and came to play.

I knew my work was cut out for me. I had met her at the nearby lounge and showed up wearing a beanie, sweater, jeans, and Skechers. My belt matched my shoes and I had the scruff, but I could have otherwise passed for a bum whose only hobby is to frequent the local porn shop.

My tactic? Less talking, more eye contact. I don't know much about refinancing or short selling but I knew that she would feel comfortable with me if I listened.

As always, I asked questions over the next hour.

"So what did you want to be growing up? "Why did you choose your career path? "When was your last relationship? What do you enjoy when you're not busy ruling the world?"

She spoke for an hour about some of the deepest and most intimate parts of her life. It seemed as if she'd been longing for a man who loves listening. Two drinks and an hour and a half later, she began feeling inexplicably closer to me. It was time to go. Our chemistry had peaked. She threw a $20 dollar bill down to go Dutch in an attempt to test me. I contested, "A gentleman never lets a lady pay for anything on the first date." As we walked outside, I stopped and hugged her. I gave her hair a gentle tug and whispered, "I rented a movie." She responded in a seductive tone, "Which one?" It was on.

The problem was, we had parked in the same parking lot. I didn't want to leave anything up to chance, because I knew she could change her mind any second. I told her I wanted to drive in her Lexus to my house (which was strategically placed just down the street) and that I'd come back and get my car later.

She agreed.

Within two minutes we were walking into my house. She politely introduced herself to my two roommates and stepped into my dimly lit room. The rest is history.

My online profile works due to its simplicity. It has mystery, intrigue, positiveness, and somewhat that of human element that allows the girl to feel comfortable with the idea of going out with me.

Here it is:

My ideal girl is someone who is comfortable in her own skin, has ideas of what she wants out of life, and can try to be positive no matter the situation. She is a "sexy dork" who is funny, and playful.

I'm looking for someone who doesn't take life too seriously but is serious about life. She has the ability to make me happy just by looking at her. She doesn't have to be perfect, just perfect for me.

Any girl who thinks, "Well I've had all my fun, now its time to settle down and find Mr. Right" is not my type. Your boring accountant is waiting for you in his cubicle at a big four firm. Enjoy! A girl who enjoys the fun that life can bring, can make me a better person, and doesn't mind throwing a compliment at me once in a while (guys want to feel appreciated too) is the girl for me.

Thanks for reading!

All About the Disappearing Man - Why Men Suddenly Grow Cold And Distant After A Few Weeks

Have you ever wanted to know all about the disappearing man? Perhaps you have had a boyfriend disappear on you in the past? Would you like to keep that from happening to you again? The idea of a man disappearing on you is scary. But with the right knowledge, you can avoid getting into another such situation.

Here are some of the reasons why men disappear.

  • Maybe you told him to? To stay on the safe side, watch what you say to him, even when you're angry. Words once spoken cannot be taken back, especially hurtful words that are hard to forget!
  • The relationship has become boring for both of you, and he needs to find his fun elsewhere.
  • He was a coward, and couldn't face the responsibilities of a serious relationship.
  • He felt under pressure in the relationship. Perhaps you were moving too fast?
  • He felt stifled in the relationship. Perhaps you set too many "rules?"
  • He met someone else. Sadly, when you're still dating, anything can happen -- and when he finds a woman who's a better fit for his life, he can take the risk of breaking up with you.

What should you do to keep him from disappearing? Here are a few pieces of advice:

  • List down the good points that helped you fall for him in the first place. This will keep your mind off the bad stuff.
  • Look at yourself. Are you helping the relationship grow?
  • Learn from your past mistakes, so that your present and future relationships will always improve.
  • Don't try to find a man who disappeared. If he wanted to talk to you, he would give you a call.

When a man disappears, sometimes it's his fault, and sometimes it's your fault. But you know what? That's fine. The law of averages state that there's someone better for you out there, anyway.

Besides, a disappearing man is still better than an abusive partner. Also, would you really stay in a relationship with someone you didn't truly love? Remember, it takes two people to make a relationship work!

Now you know all about the disappearing man! But there's more to learn about dating and relationships. Feel free to take an extra two minutes right now to click the links below. The more you know about love and the dating game, the fewer problems you run into, and the more happiness and satisfaction you'll feel.

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Online Dating Tips for Men

If you have just joined an online dating community you are probably a bit nervous, anxious and eager about the whole thing.

You excitedly check the service to see if you have gotten any responses. However, do not be discouraged if your prospective dates do not respond right away to your queries.

Female members of online dating sites receive an average of 50-200 queries during the online dating process. So expect ladies to take some time going through the queries they receive. You need to be a little patient.

In addition, a proactive approach to online dating is a good idea. Focusing on just one woman will severely limit your chances of getting a response. You should send queries to a number of different women to boost your chances of landing a positive response.

Remember that the ball is also in your court. While you shouldn't be too selective, you also have the prerogative to be a bit choosy in accepting an invitation from a prospective online dating partner yourself.

It helps if you use a little imagination and creativity in creating your online profile. Make it unique but not too flamboyant. It should stand out, however, because your perspective dating partners will also be sifting through messages from other members of the online dating community.

An interesting username, one that perhaps incorporates your interests or unique qualities, "green eyes" for example, helps.

It also helps to browse the profiles of other men for ideas. I'm not talking about "lifting" from other profiles or making things up, just seeing how they present themselves in the best way possible. Also to read through some of the profiles of your prospective dating partners, picking up on what women are interested in. This will help you to find out in what areas you share their interests and incorporate those into your profile.

By doing this, your prospective partners will have a better chance of remembering you after reading your profile.

If you tailor your profile to a specific online dating prospect you are interested in, you can give her the impression that you took the time to read her profile and make a special effort to establish a connection with her.

You should always be truthful about the things you put in your profile. There is no need to lie. If you feel a certain aspect of your life doesn't put you in the best light, then just leave it out.

If you are dishonest, it will be harder to cover up those lies when you and your date get to know each other better. The effort can also prevent you from fully enjoying your date.

How to Find the Hottest Chat Rooms - Or Make Them

Okay, I'll admit it. I used to love trolling the chat rooms. I used to flirt and chat all the time. You could even say I was hooked.

I even made connections. I met strangers who became friends and I even dated a few of the guys from the "rooms" (although I don't necessarily advocate that).

How did I find these chat rooms? Most often, I went to People Connection on my Internet service. Then I simply searched the listings there.

Which rooms I went to depended on how I felt at the time. If I wanted to chat in a "hot" way I would go into the more "flirty" rooms. Sometimes I would go into the sports chats and see who was there. Let's face it, a girl can turn any situation into a flirty chat. All it takes is a little steering in the right direction!

Are you looking to strike up a hot chat, one that will lead to a hot date? Simply type your general geographic location into the chat room search box and see what comes up.

The more populous your metropolitan area, the better your chances of finding at least one hot room centered around your city. Want to broaden your search? Remember that any chat can turn hot if that is your intention, so you needn't confine yourself to just the singles' chats.

If you are new to chat rooms or even the Internet, no worries. Simply type the words "chat room" into a search engine,. If you want to localize a search, then follow up the search term with the name of your city. Or start with the service that's already localized to your area.

If you're new, you needn't bother trying to keep up with the conversations. Simply sit back and watch the conversations unfold. You might get invitations to private conversations, but don't feel that you have to accept them.

If the conversation gets to raunchy for you, try a different room or different service. And of course, you should never stand for being insulted. If you ever start to feel uncomfortable, or if the mood of the room changes, remember that you can always log out and try a different one.

Chat rooms can vary widely in their flavor. Some of the chat rooms are frequented by people who do nothing but chat, and the conversation can flow pretty fast. When you get used to a particular room, you can start adding a comment or two.

Remember that there are chat rooms that cater to every taste, desire, interest and age group. If you do not find what you're looking for in one room, you can simply log out and try another.

Before long you will be a chat room pro and you will have found all kinds of new friends (or even playmates)!

Happy chatting!

Thursday, April 19, 2012

The Basics Of Online Dating

These days there exists an enormous number of individuals who employ online dating services for finding a sweetheart, love, friendship and possibly even spousal relationship, making it feel like a perfect hobby for anyone searching to be connected. A lot of men and women make the mistake of thinking that due to share numbers it is just a question of creating a user profile for them to be successful on the internet. This couldn't be further from the truth. Like everything else in life, you must give it much more consideration if you want to achieve the outcome that you are looking for. Allow me to share my basic guidelines for making an actual start.

1. Choose a catchy User name

A brief scan through the several nicknames which show up in any internet dating site will let you know that a lot of people who sign up to dating websites do not give much consideration to their nickname or 'handle'. You will definitely notice a great deal of things like Johnny12, Mary45 and so forth. Just how monotonous is that? Talk about staying generic. Music players, actors, authors etc. decide upon a nickname on purpose. Whilst in the real world we're not expected to use nicknames (in general), on an online dating website it actually is standard so why not take advantage of it as an opportunity to decide on a name that can aid you in getting better outcome.

2. Your headline has to be engaging

The moment you run into new people that you would like to become familiar with, as a way to proceed you must begin a real dialogue with him or her. On the dating web site, I think of your title as the first words you are going to say to your possible date. And as with one to one conversation, your very first word is incredibly important. If it is vulgar or repulsive, the probability is you will not get a response. In case it is dull, you might not get the response that you are waiting for and you'll have to work harder to encourage the other individual to carry on with the interaction. If the very first word you say to start a conversation is amusing, captivating or intriguing, you might be a lot more likely to make it less complicated for people to open up and have a talk with you. The same thing happens online. So next time you open up an online dating account, give it a go and make your title or heading a bit more captivating.

3. Put in Details into your user profile

We have all heard a lot of dating expert tell us to be mysterious when we are first trying to begin an enchanting adventure. Regardless of whether that's true or not, there is a big difference between staying mystical and retaining details. The former might be categorised as a technique whereas the later makes you look suspicious. When your online dating profile begins to conceal details, people start to doubt. And that's something that you simply do not wish to happen when dating on the internet. It will damage your prospects to no end. So start by completing as much fundamental information as necessary for someone to take an inspired look at you without your physical presence. It'll do you a great deal of good within the competitive world of internet dating.

4. Express yourself better

Within internet dating, people do not have the advantage of seeing you face-to-face and being able to develop an impression through what you appear to be, your gestures or your eye contact. Nevertheless, we all have got the amazing power to use our imagination. Hence, you have to exploit people's potential to visualize. The only way you'll be able to do this on-line is through you description. So try and give individuals as many details as they should have to develop a positive image of you. The place that asks you to describe yourself in a few words is actually an opportunity for you to sell yourself, so make use of it.

5. Provide a decent photo of yourself

A great deal of people create a profile on a dating website without having the clearly important element of a snapshot. Pretty much all the matchmaking web sites that I've been to stress the very fact that you simply are so many times more likely to hook-up when you have a photograph published than if you do not. In spite of this, a great number of people today do not post an image. Think about it this way, will you bother with someone who does not have a face when you will find significantly better choices? Regardless of how shy you might be, you have to publish a picture in order for people to pay attention.

Dating Places in Bangalore

Bangalore, the capital of Karnataka, has grown out as a cosmopolitan city, thanks to the influx of people coming down from various parts of the country and the globe. The weather condition of Bangalore is really good and it has many places that are worth visiting. The concept of pubs, dining out, shopping at malls has become common and people love indulging in them on weekends.

The percentage of the young crowd is high here and this could be one of the reasons why pubs and discotheques are a hit here. Due to the young crowd, dating in Bangalore is also becoming quite common and a number of youngsters can be seen roaming hand in hand.

Best Places to Date in Bangalore

When it comes to dating in Bangalore, parks are placed at the top of the list. Some of the parks that are frequented by youngsters are Lal Bagh, Wonder La Amusement Park, Freedom Park, Cubbon Park etc. The Amusement Park of Wonder La is quite a new craze in Bangalore, as it has a water park and an amusement park with both dry and water rides. It is located on the road to Mysore and costs Rs 450 for a single individual to go and enjoy in the amusement park.

The Hesaraghatta Lake is situated about 29 kilo meters from the city. This is yet another hot spot for lovers who can enjoy taking a stroll beside the lake and also enjoy with their partners. There are sailing facilities available here. Go slightly further down about 40 kilo meters and you can enjoy the Omthara Kala Kuteera. It is indeed a pleasant drive away from the city's hustle and bustle and couples can spend quiet time together and enjoy the pastoral beauty and scenic surroundings.

If you don't mind going further down, then you can visit Muthyala Maduvu, which is located 44 kilo meters from the city and is a popular picnic getaway. Enjoy the rustic surroundings and the waterfall. Shivganga, one of the famous dating places in Bangalore, is also ideal for one day trekking and you get to spend time away from the crowded city. If your partner wishes to go further down, then there is the Halenijagal amongst superb woody valleys and hills.

Enjoy a perfect date with your loved one around the cool Chunchi Falls, which is located at a distance of 85 kilo meters from the main city. The place is pebble strewn, so one needs to be careful. Check out the Chamrajsagar reservoir which is a drive of 35 kilo meters and it is the ideal place to rejuvenate far away from the maddening city crowd. On airport road is located Devanahalli. Here, you can enjoy a day's trip visiting the beautiful and rich architecture of the temples. When it comes to dating in Bangalore, Nandi hills is yet another hot spot and you get to visit beautiful Chola style temples and you would surely cherish the picturesque beauty. Couples who are interested in fishing can check out for the Kanva Reservoir and you would find that it to be an interesting place worth visiting.

Mekedatu is around one hundred kilo meters from the city and is quite a hot spot for dating couples. Other places for dating in Bangalore include malls like Garuda Mall, Sigma mall, Lido Mall, Mantri Mall and so on, where couples can have a wonderful time hand in hand. Coffee houses and pubs too are ideal places to date in Bangalore. Coffee World and Barista are places worth visiting for dating. Enjoy good food and drinks at pubs with your partner.

Find Out the Male Prototypes to Be Aware Of

These are broad categories and only a certain percentage of men will fit them absolutely.

Most men will have some variation of these characteristics. Nothing wrong with being charming and handsome. Guys will always put out their very best to start with and we women do this as well. Its only later that the cracks start to show and the more comfortable he will feel with you, the more likely he will show the other side of his character. Sometimes it can be so subtle you are not even aware of it for ages.

Hopefully you will more than an awareness of undercurrents and that a little red flag will come up when you date such a male and that's a good time to exit.

But hey, sometimes it's good to go out with these different types to find out what you don't want. It's not all bad.

Historically we have the Don Juans and the Casanovas who are very sexually active but in different ways.

The Don Juan Type is the handsome fabulous seducer, tires easily of his conquest and moves on to the next. It's the chase and conquest that drives him. He hunts women.

So do be aware if you have a history of being attracted to this type of man.Going into a relationship with the idea that you can change him is a recipe for disaster.

The Sadistic Type could well be a variation of the Don Juan. He hides his true nature behind a charming cultured front but gets pleasure from cruelly inflicting physical pain upon his prey. Another will torment his woman and subject her to mental and emotional abuse. Of course this is a very generalized concept and there will be many varying degrees of men with this character type. He is highly likely to have two or more on the go at the same time.

The Casanova prototype has this sexual animal magnetism that has women clambering for his attention. He is charming, handsome and cultured. I would put it, that he holds back his true self, there is no commitment, and this can present a challenge to a certain type of woman to see if she is the one to break this stronghold and capture him.

This prototype will fit many men to some degree or more. There are many sub-levels of this personality but to do them fair, perhaps they have not found a women who has been able to reach that part of him that truly wants to be be captured and loved in the truest sense of the word.

It has been known for him to be captured by a woman with her own almost magical allure - her own magnetism of self containment and an inner awareness of herself on all levels.

When he lets go the fear of being controlled, dominated, loss of freedom, he will be her's for ever.

The Co-Dependent Type: The guy who has never let go his mother. He has the emotional level of a ten year old. So he will date women who will replace his mother and believe me, there are plenty of women out there to take her place. This is another recipe for disaster if you truly want a loving long term relationship. But then again, there are always exceptions to the rule and against all odds, such a relationship can work.

The Demanding Man Type: Finding fault with everything about you. Often paranoid. Wanting to know your every movement. Jealousy has no bounds. He doubts himself. You will be like a bird in a gilded cage.

The Analyst Type: The know-all. He's always right. Its kind of like he has to prove himself to all and sundry. In other words he's an intellectual snob. Very hard to keep up with this kind of guy. The first couple of dates will probably show him up. Get out now unless you are the type of woman who enjoys being around this type of man.

The ArmChair Sportsman Type: (The Mans Man.) He lives for his sport from the comfort of his armchair or favourite pub. He's addicted to sport. Loves the associated male bonding rituals. Put alcohol in the mix for added fuel and it can be a recipe for disaster. It's not so very romantic when your beloved weaves his way to bed breathing alcoholic fumes all over you. I will leave the rest to your imagination.

As said before there are many variations of the above types and we all probably have a bit of them all in us.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Dating Beautiful and Sexy Women

When it comes to dating beautiful and sexy women, self-confidence is the most important factor. Every woman will agree that the most attractive quality of a man is his confidence. You will certainly want the kind of confidence to approach any woman you desire without fear or hesitation.

Most people have never come across the concept of inner self. It is not really a tangible concept but rather an idea in your head about how you perceive yourself to be. It is the belief in yourself about a particular aspect of life. It is this belief that shapes your life. Your belief about yourself is the most important factor in approaching beautiful and sexy women. You need to first forget your own beliefs in the past that did not help you. You need to deal with your own insecurity issues, the most common ones are:

- being shy

- trying not to mess up

- thinking too much about contingencies

- being too focused on outcome

- being too nervous

- not having the confidence to deal with body image problems

To deal with these insecurity issues, first you have to understand that, like most men out there, we all come across the same fears when trying to attract a woman. We worry about what the beautiful and sexy women are thinking or how they will react to what we say, therefore we use our logic to rationalize our behavior.

But in doing this, we immediately display a flaw that women can instinctively smell. Instead of covering up our insecurities we end up highlighting them by:

- worrying about what to say

- trying too hard to impress her

In one word, this means acting too serious around her. Many guys can relate to these instances where you simply think too much about the situation and end up killing the vibe of the situation. That is not how male and female interaction should work.

A good advice to overcome the inner insecurity issues is to realize this:

Women have much more pressure to appear attractive due to society's pressures on them. We don't need to worry about whether we are dressing like a slut, or whether any man thinks what we're saying makes us look silly. When compared to women, men should be more relaxed!

So when you're thinking about a woman "Wow she's so beautiful and sexy", she is probably thinking in her own head "Oh, I hope he doesn't think I'm too fat compared to his last girlfriend".

Women are probably a lot more self-conscious than you. So, be easy!

Having said that, knowing the above is only a short-term solution.

In the long-term, what you really need to do is to acquire the ability to naturally attract your desirable women and to make it a part of your personality.

Will He Propose Soon?

If you were auditioning for a role of a lifetime and just found out you got the starring part, you would be excited, but, also a bit anxious and nervous. Getting engaged is a similar experience. You've been asking yourself for awhile - will he propose soon? Although you've dreamed of this for awhile, it is also a little nerve-wracking. One of the first signs that he is going to propose is that he seems a little nervous and somewhat mysterious lately. You can't figure out what is going on. Brace yourself - before opening night there will be a lot of jangled nerves to deal with and it starts with the proposal.

It is highly likely that the two of you have already talked about getting engaged, or at least, talked around the subject in the abstract. You might have even asked: Will he propose soon? Men like to be almost 100% sure that you will say yes before they ever ask. If he has sent up a few "trial balloons" to gauge your interest in marrying him, you can be sure he is thinking about it.

If he all of a sudden wants the two of you to spend more time with his family or friends, he is probably trying to make sure that everyone gets to know each other and likes each other before he pops the question. Signs that he is going to propose are definitely going to include many auditions in front of his parents and extended family. His family might even drop hints to you and badger you with questions like - will he propose soon?

When he talks about the future, are you in it? Will he propose soon? He will if he is always mentioning discussions about "when we have kids," "when we buy a house," and "where to go on vacation together next year." He is literally telegraphing to you that he is putting you in the picture long term.

The holidays provide many signs that answer the question: Will he propose soon? By the time a man is getting ready to propose marriage, he is already bringing his lady to family holiday events and she is his regular "plus one" date at major social events like weddings and business dinners. You should already be a fixture in his life and everyone around him knows you well.

One of the most obvious signs that he is going to propose and get this show on the road is that he told you he is going to propose. Most men won't discuss an imminent proposal unless their mind is already about 90% made up already.

Will he propose soon? With signs like these, it appears likely.

Your intuition is already telling you that the signs that he is going to propose are all there and you need to trust your gut. Enjoy the ride and remember that if you want to make your marriage a major hit you need to spend twice as much time planning the details of the actual marriage as you would planning for a wedding day that will last for a few brief moments. Your show is going to be in production for a long time and you want it to be a big success.

Monday, April 16, 2012

What Are the Advantages of Dating Websites?

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The Reason Why He Didn't Call You Back

He hasn't called back.

Sucks.

You've talked to all your friends.

You still get no answers.

Now it's been about three weeks and he still hasn't called.

You're thinking, "What should I doll you've got to do is fire off a question or . How come he hasn't called back?"

Here's the deal: he didn't like you in the way you needed to be likedto be? Or, starting NOW, look at the '. Sometimes it's tough to hear that, but look at the evidence:

You text him and he doesn't text you back.

You call him and he doesn't call back.

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They're not living from a place of abundance, so they stress over the insignificant few.

It's an abundant worldnd how you look at your current situation),So. There are men everywhere.

The issue is that we all too often separate our normal lives from our dating livesery guy get it? No, Of cours. So instead of chatting up the cute guy at the grocery store, you ignore him and then wait for Friday night out with the girls.

You only give yourself those few hours to meet someone, and ignore the other 98% of your life!

Women don't realize their feminine powereating attraction with women is something virtual. A woman in touch with her sexuality, who isn't afraid to start conversations and be flirty, will not have to worry about men not calling her back.

If you meet men every single day, you will not be obsessed about that one guy.

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The real reason why he didn't call you back is because he wasn't into you, and make it harder than it h. But that doesn't matter.

Realize that there are men everywhere for the woman who knows how to flirt, knows how to initiate conversation, and knows how to get what and who she wants.

Be that woman.

5 Ways to Cope With a Bad Breakup

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Friday, April 13, 2012

What Should You Do About First Date Anxiety?

If you have been trying to find love on internet dating websites there will come a point where it is time to go on your first datehem before doing any. This can be extremely nerve wracking, particularly as you have never met that person in real life before! You are probably wondering whether or not the other person will like you? Whether you will like them? Or will you get on well? Whatever your thoughts are, remember it is normal to have a little bit of first date anxiety.

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The main aim of a first date should be to enjoy yourself and get to know the other personou try a new dish which is a disaster. Relax and be yourself and it will all come together! Be sure that you choose a date and a place that you will feel happy going to and this will help to settle your nerves a littledly works on the relationship Every rela. Select a location which is relatively close to where you both live or is around the half way pointer, he says it's the best thing you. Don't arrange to meet in a place that is a long distance away from your home, just in case your are delayed or you want to extend the date that little bit longer and still get home on time.

Try to choose the type of date that will make you feel relaxed and at easehe is the one for you,The way h. If you haven't tried a certain cuisine or a type of activity such as ice skating before then probably opt for a restaurant or activity that is more familiar for you both.

If you start feeling nervous take a few deep slow breathes and this should help you to regain some composureux in any relationship,He makes you who. Count to three, take a big breath then breathe outare very special to him, . It will help lessen your anxiety and stress levels.

Realise that there will be plenty of other dates and other fish in the sea should things not turn out how you envisaged it wouldave accepted him with all their h. There are plenty of situations where anxiety can affect us eg talking in front of a group of people, being tongue tied at a job interview, however it is not the be all, end all.

Anxiety can affect the best of us and we will not always perform as well as we'd hopedim, you find no interest in the world and . The majority of people feel anxious at the prospect of going on a first date with someone that they don't really knownone of you doubt each other's act. First date anxiety is not something that you can completely control, but there are ways to ease the anxietyore doing anything, he loves you sincerely,. Use the extra energy to the best of your advantage and you will find out that the date will go swimmingly well!

Online Dating Tips for Him to Meet His Girl: How to Make It Happen

You saw her profile and right then and there you knew that she is the right girl you want to invite for a datel be making payments for the servic. Here, you must learn that the key to start online dating is by knowing how to communicate correctlynded your money, Similarly, any inappr. Your goal is to have her respond to your messageshire a wing woman agency and get your dream women. Therefore, you have to send her messages that will sweep her feet off the ground.

Now, for the online dating to start the first message should be carefully craftedin her safety from any unlik. Since you want her to notice your message and open it your subject title should therefore be intriguing enoughuld discuss it with her rather than dispara. Do not put subject titles such as "hi", "hello" or "hello sexy" as these are lame titlesh misbehavior will only waste your time and you w. Make your subject titles stand out amid her numerous messagesate you to spend at least thi. So, write a funny or catchy title.

In your message don't use words or phrases such as "I'm new to this dating thing" or "I am not quite sure what I am doing." These phrases smell like total lies and you don't want her to have that impressioneveryone is as proficie. Your profile already says everything about you, so it would be redundant to introduce yourself in your messageove, Simply hire a wing wo. You should base your message on her profile and make sure that you leave an open questionagainst a sum of money, Such misbeh. With this, you are inviting her to respond to your messagefidence to speak up to the per. For example, her profile may say that she loves the outdoors and is fond of campingnique and has different per. In your message you might want to say that you are an outdoorsy type too then add a question that goes, "For summer camps, where do you usually go?" With this, it shows that you have read her profile and opening a line for her to make a follow up.

Once you have already exchanged about four to five messages, then it is time to take it to the next phasete at night event, But you will have to . But do not ask her outright for a datefunded your money, Similarly, any inappro. What you should do is to ask her if it is okay to talk over the phoneen within a few days, However, there . This way you might be able to gauge if you have actually reeled her int person the easy way. About 5-10 minutes spent over the phone will give you insight as to the spark and compatibilityey, Such misbehavior will only w. Then you can ask her out on a date.

Meeting your girl through online dating may be daunting to some but when you know how to get her to notice you then everything will work out just fine.

5 Steps to Applying Your Fashion Savvy to Your Dating Life

dating would be more fun and result in more successful relationships if we approached selecting a date/mate the same way we approach selecting an outfit.

Think I'm nuts? Maybe.

But, Hear Me Out

I would bet you can tell just by stepping into a store and quickly scanning the inventory whether or not they have anything you'd like.

That's because, whether you're a fashionista or, like me, more comfortable in your cowboy boots, jeans, and casual shirts, you've spent innumerable hours thinking about your fashion sense.

You can probably very easily tell me if you look good in the following:

  • A-line skirts
  • Halter dresses
  • Scoop neck collars
  • Low-rise jeans
  • Skinny jeans
  • Orange

You know this because you've put a lot of thought - conscious thought - into what works for you and what doesn't.

But, when it comes to dating?

If you're like most of my friends and clients, your plan is probably something along the lines of, "I'll know it when I meet The Onebut we've already heard about . 'Cause I'll get butterflies."

Speaking from experience, that's not really a good plan.

OK, Smarty Pantss if you can - so there are plenty of talking poin. What SHOULD I Do?

Try these five (not necessarily easy) steps.

Step 1: Make a List

Make a list of traits your ideal partner would or wouldn't haveenty of talking points for people to co. You may find it helpful to flag them as 'must haves', 'wouldn't be caught dead with', and 'it depends'.

Yes, I know everyone has told you lists are sillyying in the London-based band Years of Rice an. Or, you're too picky partners, As musicia. Or, something similaric on your profile, And, make sure you add a . Poppycocks as an experiment, b. We're talking about finding a life partner for goodness' sake!!!

So, break out the pen and paper, and get to writing.

Step 2: Be Specific.

People can, and often do, use the same words and mean wildly different things.

For example, continuing with our fashion metaphor, 'casual' can mean anything from denim shorts, a t-shirt, and flip flops to a sundress with open-toed sandals.

For each trait you listed in Step 1, ask yourself, "What do I mean by that?" If it's self-explanatory, you're done with it.

However, if, like the term "romantic", the trait could use a bit more clarity, write out specific behaviors that clearly illustrate what you're looking for - Flowers? Candy? Jewelry? Mowing the lawn? Doing the dishes? etc.

Step 3: Frequency Check

Even positive traits can be taken to extremesom hundreds of countries around the wor. For example, you may want a partner who is generous, but not so generous that they're always living paycheck-to-paycheck.

Take a look at your list of traits and indicate how often you would want to see/experience each trait - daily, every-now-and-then, never, etc.

Step 4: Mirror Check

The more self aware you are and the more honest you are, the better and more successful your dating experiences will be.

The challenge of this step is being willing to add what you really want, not what you think you should want, to the list.

With that in mind, revisit Step 1 a lot about what you are like therefore. Add anything that's missing.

Step 5: Be Open To Change

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." ~Albert Einstein

Al was righttime?/strongSpend time maki. If you're not meeting good candidates for Mr./Miss Right, maybe you need to change things up a bitu want to see people get. You wouldn't look for a formal dress at The Gap find their music soul mates, or do yo. So, stop looking for a country music fan at the techno bar.

Review the latest version of your list of traits and brainstorm activities most likely put you in the path of people you'd like to meet.

We're usually looking for folks with similar interests, so this may be as simple as listing out your hobbies - cycling, rock climbing, dancing, football games, 5k's, triathlons, poetry readings, volunteering, etc.

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Intro Lines And The Places Where They Can Work

Ah, yes..of knowing how your date is . The introduction lineonal coloring, Not only wil. It is perhaps the most crucial weapon anybody can use in the dating worlde-green pretty well, and it doesn't send a neg. Legends tell us of the magnificent ones, a casual remark spoken with a sparkle of the eye, a simple query that can lead you to blissful love and change your life foreverd sense of self-esteem,3) strongP. Some of us never used or heard of one, while others have too much of them already.

In the world of dating, there exist many sorts of introduction lines as there are types of relationships, and maybe even moreen color called &quo. It is used to approach your potential lifetime partner, make that introduction and if you're lucky, sweep him or her off her feet right then and thereut it pays to be aware of just how. It is a way to break the ice, a technique that can capture someone's attention right off the batalming color so it can defuse a potentially anxie. However, using one isn't as easy as it soundsn short, color can make or bre. It takes loads of guts to walk right up to the apple of your eye and deliver an awesome intro linee message,strongIn short, color can m. Why? Well, you never know how he or she will respond they won't know why! On a fi. What if it's really a bad line? What if you get totally anxious and screw up the entire delivery?

You run the risk of being shot down and shambling back to safer ground to tend your wounds important thing because then I'll have more co. So before you go right up to the love of your life and make a complete fool out of yourself, better make sure you know what lines are sure-fire go-getters, and more importantly, where they workr:/strong1) strongGray /strongcan make y. Let's check out 5 of them.

THE COMPLIMENT

"You smell amazing! What cologne are you wearing?"
"Excuse me? Have you always been this beautiful?"
"Did the sun come out or did you just smile?"

Everybody loves a compliment or two, and a good one is an excellent conversation starterst people can wear blue-. Pay that person a compliment next time you stand behind him or her on a jam-packed train, in a bar or any public place that puts both of you within close proximity.

THE OPINION

"Can you help me out? I'm having a debate with my friend and I need to know your opinion."
"Hi, there! Do you think that iPad 3 is way better than Kindle for eBooks?"
"Hello! I can't help but wonder..rk if your date happens to detest it, but . Do you think this painting accurately depicts the Renaissance Era?"

Needless to say, asking for opinions is a great way to strike a long, meaningful conversationt people can wear blue-green pretty well, a. Just make sure that you won't tread on serious, sensitive topics thoughtes, Many people find i. You really don't want to start a heated argument with your potential lover right now, do you? This opening line works best on a park, a party, a gallery or any other place that is conducive to long discussions.

THE HELP

"Hi, do you happen to know where I can find the treadmill? I'm new here."
"Excuse me, can you please tell me where the Liberty Bell is? I think I'm lost."
"I have no idea what to order in this placeetest it, but blue is pretty safe, It's the f. Can you help me out?"

Human beings are helpful by nature, so when you ask for help, you would most likely end up in a conversation or better yet, a dateoverwhelm by dressing total. This tactic usually works best in the streets, department stores, restaurants or any other places that have people regularly coming by.

THE QUESTION

"Hi, may I know what your zodiac sign is?"
"Am I right to say that your favorite color is blue?"
"Do you think Stephen King should be considered a legendary author?"

A good number of love stories started out with a questioncreate a positive effect and make a good i. It is an excellent conversation starter that allows you to get to know the other person instantlyoyal and trustworthy, . This technique works out well in a library, a bookshop or any other intellectual hub that lets you pretend to be doing a research on a certain topic.

THE CONFIRMATION

"Don't you think the weather is just perfect today?"
"Isn't it cold?"
"Don't you just love this band?"

Asking for a confirmation never fails to establish a positive link between you and the other personr push them away, without either of you knowing wh. But before pulling out this strategy, be certain that the person you are about to talk to really is on the same plane as you, or you'd end up losing your shot in the dating worldt your first date night co. This opening line can work on an event's place like a fair, concert, or the beach.

Intro lines can either make or break your way towards the dating and love realm, so you have to make sure that you use the all right ones at all the right places.

Tips on Second Date

So, I see that you have made it to your second date with your newfound partner! Job well done! You apparently made a good impression and your prospective lover wants to meet up with you againother? No way!" I exclaimed in disbelie. Now what? What is he or she expecting? And more importantly, what are the things that can bring this potentially good thing you have to a whole new level called "Love"?

First dates are really importanter heard!" I remarked to my well-meaning . After all, everybody knows that first impressions are pretty difficult to shake everyone bring a dish, Play . But more often than not, it is your second date that really seals the deal on whether both of you should be moving forward or just go your separate waysuot;"Why don't yo. If you were anxious and awkward during your first date, the second date is the best time to redeem yourselfat least this one didn't make me. If the first date was, in actual fact, great, you got to level up your game on your next face-to-face encounter magic of romance and finding a man that will lov. Impressing in-person through is way different compared to impressing online.

To help you out with that, here are 5 things that can turn your second date into something fun and unforgettable.

1) Choose an exciting activity that you and your partner can enjoy.

For your first date, you probably stuck to the classics like a dinner date or an afternoon strollur misery, Lindy, are you trying to annoy me?&quo. The second date offers you the opportunity to branch out and bare a little more about yourselvesentine's Day," I explained,"Sadie, that'. So consider doing something exciting and active like a trip to mini-golf, a day at the amusement park or a boat ride at your nearby park just to escape being alon. These activities will help you out in slowly divulging your inner self to your partner as well as in getting to know him or her a whole lot better.

2) Be funny.

It is a common fact that first dates aren't exactly tension-freeexpectation, and disappointment, It's not like I a. It is packed with way too much jitters that's enough to cause a seizure attackat crazy idea? That's the silliest thing I ha. Fortunately, second dates are a lot tamer, more comfortable and give you the chance to make up for all the awkwardness and humiliation you were able to pull out on your first jauntre wasn't much she let me get away with, T. You can finally loosen up a little bit and crack a joke or twoto have some serious doubts,I thi. This way, you can lighten up the entire mood and make room for a more fun-filled one-on-one encounter.

3) Bring a surprise gift.

Did she mention that she has an irrational love for snow globes? Did he tell you that he adores Steven Spielberg's works way too much? Take a clue from your first date conversations and bring your partner a surprise gift that is close to one of his or her interestser single friends ov. The second date gives you the opportunity to show your partner that you were indeed paying attention during your last date"You know Sadie, I heard that from a love coa. When you remember the information you gathered during your first meet-up and show your partner just that, it will instantly create a positive connection.

4) Don't rush for physical touches.

Second dates are way too early for full lip-locks and anything like that, so keep your lips, hands and other body parts to yourselfe in the magic of romance and finding a man that . Your second date should be about discovering each other more, and by that, we mean your personalities, likes and dislikes, interests and other nonsexual-oriented topicsndfather was thrilled f. You can flirt, but make sure to keep it within acceptable limits unless you want to scare your partner off and lose your chance on love.

5) Find out more.

Most of the most memorable second dates became such because both parties were pretty interested in wanting to find out more about each otherI do that would give me some measu. Be inquisitive and ask your partner a lot of questionse his wife, and he had me laughing at s. Ask him or her about his or her general outlook in life, social circle, lifelong dreams and other interesting topics though, I think I wi. This way, you will make him or her feel extra special and that you really are interestede you trying to annoy me?""He. Just don't overdo it though unless you want to sound like an annoying, investigative reporterriages, she is bound and determined to get i. Set limits to your questionst Valentine's without her will pr. Never ask about sensitive topics such as political opinions, religious views, or worse, sexual preferencesave been doing working, by the way?&qu. That's just plain rude - and downright awkward.

The second date lets you uncover a lot about your date and vice versay are already here and yo. It is the perfect time for you and your new dating partner to build the basics and establish if you got a shot on love or noteplied calmly, "I would bet that your gr. So, better make sure that this date is one-of-a-kind, fun and unforgettable for both you and your partner.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Why Do Girls Like Bad Boys

Many women would dump their nice and gentlemanly boyfriends for a bad boy typeost, the main reason nice guys/girls finish last . Some girls are even drawn only to this type of personalityMethod" by Mystery, and "Why Men Love B. This fact is pretty bewildering, as a woman is innately predisposed to choose a man who can provide her a sense of security and who she can spend the rest of her life withonly a matter of time, To prevent this from. The Psychology of Attraction may provide some useful answers to this interesting development.

Opposites Attract

People want to be with someone who is different, someone who is the complete opposite of themselveslly planned, Even more of us probably haven't e. Nice girls are attracted to men who live with an intoxicating lifestyle because they also want to be a part of that edgier worldn to the relationship stage be. That is why a bookworm often gets attracted to a person who rides a Harleyloyal servant" or someone who "a. Nice guys also tend to fall for strong-willed womenfew weeks they burn out, They get sick an. Such a situation creates a sense of excitement that you cannot feel if you are going out with the same-personality type as yours.

Harlequin High

Romance novels influence women like no othert and foremost, the main rea. After reading tons of Harlequin romance, there is a huge chance that you would want a man who has a signature swagger and stride with overflowing bravadoI think all of us have been in a . And why not? In most novels, these indifferent, powerful, bold, and mysterious men often become the dreamy, faithful, and loving partner that every woman dreams of.

Bad Guys are Risk Takers

Women love men who are risk-takers because, most often than not, risk-taking men are successfulp to you and send you on a one-way t. They bring home the bacon and are therefore, good providers something menial will not cause. According to anthropologists who are studying the evolutionary traits of people, men who are successful and risk takers often get most of the mating opportunitiese (friends, colleagues, family, etc,). Women's primal instincts prefer men who have the best fighting skills, adventurous, and passionate.

Dark Triad Personality and the Mother's Instincts

Naturally occurring bad boys are considered to have a dark triad of personality traits, which include three dominant traits: narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellithe main reason nice guys/girls fin. Based on these traits, bad boys exhibit common behavior like indifference, egotism, cynicism, manipulative and deceptive behavior, callousness, selfishness, thrill-seeking impulsiveness, lack of empathy, and superficial charmsw) you are demonstrating qualiti. The James Bond character is one example of an alpha male with dark triad traitssleep together after a big fight?), There is unfin. These traits are also often the character traits of male protagonists in romance novels.

According to research, men with dark triad personality traits know how to manipulate women, making them dangerous and interestingly, appealing to most womendate someone that reminds them o. Many psychologists believe that bad boys can activate the mother's instincts, and as a result, women feel compassion and want to take care of these men with the hope changing their unappealing attitude for the better.

Forbidden Fruit

Bad boys are considered dangerous and forbidden, and these traits translate to thrills of excitementther reading on the subject, I highly r. It's like Eve and her curiosity on the forbidden fruit all over again will help to build a solid foundation, To. Most women cannot resist the temptation nor stop the attraction to outlawed men, because, just like when Eve bit that forbidden fruit, many women want to know more than what they already didance, Now this quality may slide for . It is the increased in status, the excitement of dating a wild and roguish guyey instinctively want so. It may be a fault for some, but for women who love their bad boys, it is the dream of their lives.

Online Dating Tips for Ladies - How to Make an Attractive Profile

If you are among the ladies who are engaging on online dating, then most likely, you already know that your profile is very importantshe can), then she will not be. In order to attract someone, you must create an attractive and unique profile, It's easy to say "no," It's ea. There are some things that you can do in order to attract guys, however, you must also take note that every guy has his preference, thus do not set your standards very high.

Basically, there are some tips that you can follow when it comes to making your profileso self absorbed about it that you don't commu. These tips will not only help you attract more men, but they can also help you to stay safe.

· Photographs - when you are to post your photos, make sure to post the most recent photos and these should be decent in the sense that you will not show off a huge part of your bodyhout your interactions with her, make sure to as. You should not post your pictures wherein you are just wearing a two-piece bathing suit or pictures that will show off much of your cleavage.

You can also include some photos that show your hobbies just like playing an instrument or attending to your flowersWhat is the one most important thing, . These can serve as attention grabber and they can also serve as the topic for a conversation.

· Information - always try your best to keep the information private given that engaging on online dating is not always safecarefree, relaxed, and appreciativ. Avoid informing someone your home address or even your work informationen,strong3, You are completely self absorbed/stro. If you are to mention the things that you like to do, never name specific places.

By providing limited information, you are keeping yourself safeonents are incredibly important in the attrac. By the time that you are sure you can trust the person, you can now disclose to him the information that you would like him to know.

· Scams - keep in mind that the online world is full of scamsture of fun and deep que. Thus, when you encounter someone who is asking you to send him money or some sorts of expensive items, report him immediately to whoever is running the site right now, What you want is . Of course, you should also try to avoid himness skills, some boundaries that are all bac. Do not be a victim of scams.

When someone had been attracted to your profile and he messaged you, make sure that you read your messages carefullyf worth, If you believe you are worthy, . If you don't feel comfortable chatting or communicating with a certain guy, then you should cut off your communication with himnder and revel in her own . If you feel that he is not trustworthy at all or if you feel threatened, then stop communicating with him is about personal autonomy and self . These simple things will keep you safe while engaging on online dating.