These are broad categories and only a certain percentage of men will fit them absolutely.
Most men will have some variation of these characteristics. Nothing wrong with being charming and handsome. Guys will always put out their very best to start with and we women do this as well. Its only later that the cracks start to show and the more comfortable he will feel with you, the more likely he will show the other side of his character. Sometimes it can be so subtle you are not even aware of it for ages.
Hopefully you will more than an awareness of undercurrents and that a little red flag will come up when you date such a male and that's a good time to exit.
But hey, sometimes it's good to go out with these different types to find out what you don't want. It's not all bad.
Historically we have the Don Juans and the Casanovas who are very sexually active but in different ways.
The Don Juan Type is the handsome fabulous seducer, tires easily of his conquest and moves on to the next. It's the chase and conquest that drives him. He hunts women.
So do be aware if you have a history of being attracted to this type of man.Going into a relationship with the idea that you can change him is a recipe for disaster.
The Sadistic Type could well be a variation of the Don Juan. He hides his true nature behind a charming cultured front but gets pleasure from cruelly inflicting physical pain upon his prey. Another will torment his woman and subject her to mental and emotional abuse. Of course this is a very generalized concept and there will be many varying degrees of men with this character type. He is highly likely to have two or more on the go at the same time.
The Casanova prototype has this sexual animal magnetism that has women clambering for his attention. He is charming, handsome and cultured. I would put it, that he holds back his true self, there is no commitment, and this can present a challenge to a certain type of woman to see if she is the one to break this stronghold and capture him.
This prototype will fit many men to some degree or more. There are many sub-levels of this personality but to do them fair, perhaps they have not found a women who has been able to reach that part of him that truly wants to be be captured and loved in the truest sense of the word.
It has been known for him to be captured by a woman with her own almost magical allure - her own magnetism of self containment and an inner awareness of herself on all levels.
When he lets go the fear of being controlled, dominated, loss of freedom, he will be her's for ever.
The Co-Dependent Type: The guy who has never let go his mother. He has the emotional level of a ten year old. So he will date women who will replace his mother and believe me, there are plenty of women out there to take her place. This is another recipe for disaster if you truly want a loving long term relationship. But then again, there are always exceptions to the rule and against all odds, such a relationship can work.
The Demanding Man Type: Finding fault with everything about you. Often paranoid. Wanting to know your every movement. Jealousy has no bounds. He doubts himself. You will be like a bird in a gilded cage.
The Analyst Type: The know-all. He's always right. Its kind of like he has to prove himself to all and sundry. In other words he's an intellectual snob. Very hard to keep up with this kind of guy. The first couple of dates will probably show him up. Get out now unless you are the type of woman who enjoys being around this type of man.
The ArmChair Sportsman Type: (The Mans Man.) He lives for his sport from the comfort of his armchair or favourite pub. He's addicted to sport. Loves the associated male bonding rituals. Put alcohol in the mix for added fuel and it can be a recipe for disaster. It's not so very romantic when your beloved weaves his way to bed breathing alcoholic fumes all over you. I will leave the rest to your imagination.
As said before there are many variations of the above types and we all probably have a bit of them all in us.
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