The ability to approach women without fear is a huge component of successfully navigating the dating waters. Since confidence is not a tangible asset like a fit body or a thick head of hair, it can be difficult to gauge. There are two confirming tests, however, to verify the presence, or absence, of a confident spirit in a man. The required materials for the first trial are the test subject (that would be the reader), a crowded public place (such as a drinking establishment), a good deal of liquid refreshment (gentlemen's choice!) and a long, busy line of urinals (yes, urinals).
Upon entering a crowded restroom, most men look for a urinal that is as far away from other patrons as possible. Then they will stand as close to the porcelain structure as they can get, as if they would rather touch the urinal with their penis than risk having other men see their junk. Why do guys perform such a potentially nasty ritual? Because, the public nature of the crowded restroom makes many men feel uncomfortable. That is understandable; but the act also reveals how a man feels about his own masculinity.
If a man believes he has a small penis, for example, and also has a low confidence level, he may experience a good deal of unnecessary shame. Embracing a germ ridden urinal to avoid exposure and the ridicule he believes will surely follow is vastly preferred over detection of his um, shortcoming (no pun intended). The fascinating element to this phenomenon is that the average or well endowed will do the same if their confidence level is low. It's not really about the penis. It's not really about the size of the man either. A massive wrestler is as likely to hug porcelain as a jockey. Size matters far more in terms of confidence.
The reader may be thinking, "What do my urinating habits have to with dating? No woman is going to see or care how close I stand." True, but if a man feels shame in the presence of other men he will certainly be negatively affected in the quality of his dating experiences. A guy has to know he has what it takes in the extremely competitive dating marketplace. It is also helpful to remember that women can smell confidence in a man like a lion smells a wildebeest. Without confidence ably in tow, he is doomed to failure.
Here's the test. Go to a large, crowded bar and have some drinks. When relief is required, walk into the restroom and find an unoccupied urinal that is next to one that is in use. Preferably, find one that is between two that are in use. Don't acknowledge or even look at the others, just do what is needed. Except this time, stand about six inches away from the urinal. Try not to pee on anyone.
Okay, now an assessment can be made. If there were no problems - congratulations - there is most likely a confident fellow walking back to the bar. For the guys that failed the test, and ended up in intimate contact with porcelain, try again. Confidence grows with practice.
Some men would refuse this test for legitimate reasons, such as spiritual convictions or modesty. That is fine. However, do not let these things be a false cloak to cover up a crushed spirit. Keep working on this. Find other ways to increase confidence.
Like this next test. Find a place where there are hoards of attractive women. Make eye contact with those that are particularly beautiful, not averting the gaze until she does so first. Then look away. Don't stare or gawk or in any way look like a creep. Smile and move on. If she approaches, have a nice conversation. She did so because she saw a confident man who was not intimidated by her looks, and that is very attractive to a woman.
The stare test is much harder than it sounds. A beautiful woman is one of the most intimidating things in the world to most men. Few guys who lack confidence could look a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model in the eye and hold a steady gaze. Remember the focus is on the eyes, not other body parts! Give it a try. Don't be daunted by failure, because there will always be another opportunity to succeed. Good luck!
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