I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back But She Just Wants to Be Friends - What to Do

Hearing your ex girlfriend tell you that she just wants to be friends when you feel like you want her back so much can be hard. You might feel a temporary sensation of being okay with it, as the idea of having her in your life as a friend may sound more appealing than not having her in your life at all. That can easily turn to disappointment as you realize that her saying that she just wants to be friends with you is kind of her way of saying that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you again. What can you do when your ex girlfriend says that she just wants to be friends with you and you really want her back?

Don't Be Her Friend -

You'll always find people who will tell you that it is a good thing to remain friends with your ex girlfriend. Those are also people that have usually never been able to win back an ex girlfriend in their life. The fact is, while it sounds like a good thing to remain friends with an ex girlfriend, it usually doesn't turn out to be as good as it sounds. If you really want her back as your girlfriend, you can't accept the idea of being friends with her after breaking up. That doesn't mean that you need to see her as an enemy, it just means that you have to accept the reality that friendship is out of the question if getting her back as your girlfriend again is what you really want.

Why It Doesn't Work Out -

Immediately, you are going to have to deal with having feelings for her and spending time with her and not being able to act on those feelings at all. It might sound easy to do in theory, but in actuality you are going to find that it is a hard thing to do. Not only that, but what are you going to do when she wants to be your friend, while at the same time she is out rebounding with another guy? Can you go from being her boyfriend to being her friend while another guy gets to be her boyfriend?

The Friend Zone is Never Fun -

You are also going to be putting yourself in the friend zone intentionally if you try to remain friends with your ex girlfriend. Most guys would do anything to AVOID the friend zone and you'd be putting yourself in that zone intentionally. We all know that outside of cheesy Hollywood romance comedies, guys who get stuck in the friend zone usually don't get out of it, so why do that to yourself if you already know that what you really want is to get your ex girlfriend back?

It's Up to You -

At the end of it all, though, it is your call. Just realize that becoming friends with your ex girlfriend is not a guarantee that you will get her back. It's almost more of a guarantee that it WON'T happen because of the fact that you will be putting yourself in the friend zone. If you REALLY want your ex girlfriend back, I'd recommend that you don't try to be her friend and instead, try a different strategy.

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