Although breaking up is hard, sometimes it simply can't be helped. If circumstances dictate that's the way it should go, so be it. But while you can't help if you do it, you can help when you do it. Unless the person is just a complete scumbag, they deserve to be let go gracefully. That's why there are certain times to not take as opportunities to dump your partner...
1. When you are apart. Separation is hard enough on a couple. Your partner is undoubtedly missing you and looking forward to a time when they will get to see you again. At least let them see you in person one last time before you drop the hammer. If not, they will always wonder what happened while the two of you were apart... even if nothing did.
2. When you have had a fight. Tempers flare when we are angry. We use words we shouldn't and we act in ways we would never consider doing when we are not angry. Arguments are supposed to give us experience in ways we can rectify our problems. They are helpful in they allow us to grow and learn from negative experiences. They are not meant to be an exit strategy. How many times have you said something in the heat of an argument and later admitted you didn't mean to say it, it's not what you really feel? Don't let your emotions make a decision now and regret it later.
3. When you have bettered yourself. Finally lost the 30 pounds you have been talking about dropping for years? Braces finally came off? Finished college and ready to go out into the workforce? If your partner has stayed with you through thick (fat) and thin, why dump them now? If they were only there for support reasons, why not let them go before you have sufficiently used them? They deserve better.
4. When others tell you to. Listening to your friends is one thing, but ending a relationship should only be your decision... not your friends. You can take their comments under advisement but it doesn't mean you always have to follow it. They are not always right. It's easy for someone else to ask you to be alone when they don't have a partner. Besides, you also have to consider the source. Are they in a good, solid relationship? Do they have a proven track record of making good decisions when it comes to others? If not, then they are not who you should be listening to anyway. Try listening to your heart.
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