As you read this, chances are that you are really hurting right now and wishing you could convince your ex boyfriend to come right back in to your life. Still, the fact that you are reading advice on how to get him back, means that you really haven't given up on him yet. This is a clear sign of your deep love for him.
All in all, it is very important for you to know that your ex boyfriend does not reason the same way you do. This probably points to the reason (or one of the reasons) you two broke up in the first place.
It therefore goes unsaid that if you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you need to see things from his point of view. The following tips on how to get an ex boyfriend back (your ex boyfriend) should provide a foundation stone for you to work from in order to lay the groundwork to be able to get him back in to your loving arms in no time.
First things first though. You need to give him as much space as possible. Caging him in, only works to push him further away as he tries to break free of being suffocated. Believe me, the straight jacket approach is more often than not an instant recipe for disaster in the relationship stakes. Sure, you may want to lavish him with love poems describing your great love for him, but it simply doesn't work like that for the guys. You might fall for it, but it is highly likely that he won't. Instead, he'll get the impression that you are trying too hard to impress and in the love game, men most often want to be the predator not the prey.
So stop texting, SMSing and calling him every hour of the day. Instead, let him have a taste of what life is like without you.
If you've given him enough space, sooner or later he's going to show up. Most men start with friendly chats, asking you how your day was and such. What many women do not realize is that this is the most fragile moment of your relationship.
At this point, you can either do the right thing and get him back or play it wrong and end up being friend-zoned. In this case, the right thing to do is remind him of the girl he fell in love with instead of flowing the friendly vibe. For instance, you could mention that you just joined a salsa class (even if you are still buried under a heap of tear soaked Kleenex) to remind him of your fun, spontaneous and lively nature.
What follows after the innocent chats is often a walk down memory lane. In this regard he might ask you out to discuss what went wrong or you might decide to take the lead and ask him out first. Either way, be sure to approach the whole situation coolly, calmly and in an understanding fashion. You do not want to make him feel like he has his back against the wall with nowhere to run.
When strategizing on how to get an ex boyfriend back, try to be as understanding as possible and take things from his perspective. Be sure to apologize but do not over do it. He'll still get the gist of your apology whether you say it once or repeat it a thousand times. At this point, you cannot afford to look desperate, anxious or needy.
If you take into account the above information and advice well enough, you stand a fair chance of getting your ex boyfriend back in your life again. On the other hand, if he still stays reluctant, maybe it's time you accepted the fact that you just were not meant to be and move on with grace and dignity. After all, while you may not know it, there's always someone out there waiting to fill your life with love. Be patient, it's just a matter of time.
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