Few people go on a date expecting to have a horrible time. In fact, it should be the opposite. When you go out with someone for the first time, or the first few times, you should only hope for the best. The best case scenario is, of course, the two of you getting to know each other better so that the relationship can blossom into something more. What happens, then, when the other person is wrong for you? What if the other person is really, really wrong for you? Even though you may be hoping for a good time, it's important to remember the following points so that you always know when to walk away from any date that's going horribly wrong.
1. The Person Is Mean to You
Whether you're chatting with the person on an online dating site or you're out to dinner with the person, you should always watch how the person treats you. If your date is mean or hurtful towards you in any way, don't be afraid to just walk away from your date. That's right, get up and leave. Even though it feels crappy when you do, you'll feel much better about yourself later on.
2. Your Date Doesn't Respect Your Boundaries
If you don't invite your date in after a particular outing and they give you a guilt trip or if your date paws at your body as he or she tries to get you to 'give it up' against your will, just walk away from that date. Anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries doesn't respect you at all, and that's a fact.
3. Conflicting Morals And Values
If you want kids, but the other person doesn't or if you want a traditional relationship and the person is already mentioning threesomes, it might be time to walk away from your date. You should only date people who you can see yourself meshing with years down the road if you hope for a deep and meaningful relationship. Otherwise, you may be just wasting time with this person who has much different outlook on life than you do.
4. You Don't Feel A Thing
If you're not feeling anything with your date, if you think the person is ugly, short, fat, too bald or maybe you think the person is attractive only you're not attracted to them, it's time to walk away. Why lead the other person on? Don't fool yourself into thinking that you 'could' feel something for this person. If it's not there, it's not likely to ever be there. It's best to walk away from your date right now.
5. Dating The Person Isn't Fun
Dating should be new, fun and exciting. If it's not, if the person you're with is dull or if dating the person feels more like attending a series of insurance seminars, it's time to walk away from your date. It's best to end things now before the other person gets too attached so that you can go out and find someone who adds a little more pizzazz to your life.
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