So, you've got her number - now what? What do you text her? What do you say? What time should you text her? How long should a texting conversation go for? How can you keep her interested while engaging in texting conversation? Texting a woman for the first time can be a little daunting. So in this article, we are going to cover some tips which will help calm those nerves and making texting her for the first time super easy!
One thing to remember is that texting a woman is a way to continue building that attraction and curiosity she has for you - but NOT to start it from scratch. Therefore, most of the work you need to do is before you text her. Now, if your first impression is strong and this woman did feel attraction for you, then texting her for the first time will be really easy.
Tip 1: Bring her back to a place where she felt good rapport with you
Example A: Let's say you were both getting off the bus and she accidentally hit you with her bag as she was putting it over her shoulder. This provided an avenue to start chatting with each other. After a brief but fun conversation, you got her number.
So, now it's between 24-48 hours later and you send her this text:
"Hey Lisa, it's Brad - we met last Tuesday on the bus when you almost knocked me out with your handbag. Have you taken up my suggestion and replaced those bricks in your handbag with capsicum spray yet?"
Breakdown A: This text is light hearted, genuine, and interesting. Most importantly, it brings this woman back to the point where she felt "rapport" with you. And, that's exactly where you want it to be. When she feels like she has rapport with you, it makes her feel safe enough to open up more to you and reminds her that you are definitely no stranger.
Example B: Say you met a woman at the coffee shop. You thought she was hot and noticed she was reading a book that you also found fascinating. The two of you have a good conversation, and you left with her number.
So, now it's between 24-48 hours later and you send her this text:
"Hey Lisa, it's Brad - we met at the coffee shop on Wednesday where you were reading my fav comic book of all time. I still don't know how you did that. So, you going to let me in on how you did it yet?"
Breakdown B: This will help bring a woman back to a point where she felt rapport and trust with you - and make it easier for her to text you back. It also set the tone for her to be more engaging, flirty, and to have fun while texting you back. This is what you want.
Tip 2: Keep it relatively short
The main purpose of texting a woman is to keep the flirting going and anticipation before you meet up for another date. You can get into a lot less trouble by texting her too little than you can texting her too much. So with this in mind, try to keep text messages no longer than 1 standard text. Also, do your best to avoid deep and meaningful conversations via text - save them up for the dates as it will be more enjoyable for her and for you to speak about it in person.
Tip 3: Find out her communication style
This might be a surprise to you, but not all women like to text! In fact, a lot of women do prefer talking on the phone over texting. Your job is to find out what her style and preference is when it comes to cell to cell communication. To do this, you can be simple and straight forward about it. You could ask her, "Are you accused of over talking or over texting?" or something like "Pick your favorite, texting or talking?" Asking these kinds of questions early on will help you determine what her style is. It's also important to note HOW she is communicating to you. For example, if you call her and she texts you back instead of calling - then more than likely she is a woman that prefers texting. Alternatively, if she doesn't reply to your texts but picks up your phone calls, then this woman probably likes to talk more on the phone. If you find that she enjoys talking on the phone more than texting, limit your text messages mainly to logistics in times when you are both able to talk - that way you will find ways to communicate with this woman when she is most responsive.
So the key to texting a woman first actually happens before the first text and that is - having a great first impression. When this has been accomplished, all you need to do is remind her of that initial attraction she felt with you and be flexible in your communication style with her. So, happy texting!
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