Your first date should match the profile you requested, but some singles don't tell the truth on their profile. The only way to know if your first date is a match is when you meet him personally. Most singles talk and act different in person than they do on the phone.
Some dating sites don't take the time to screen the applicant or run a background check which weeds out the losers. Make sure you ask them if they do these two things.
They need to meet you personally so they can talk to you matching you up with a compatible person. This doesn't always work either, so the best way to know if your first date is a match is when you are face to face with him. There are 3 things to look for.
1 - While you're holding a conversation with him - If he doesn't appear interested in what you're saying or looking in the other direction while you're talking, then that is a sure sign he is not a match for you. He isn't showing you any consideration and wants this date to be his way or no-way.
He is looking for something different than what you are. You are probably looking for a serious relationship and maybe he is looking for a fun-time with no strings attached.
2 - If he tries to get to close - He might be interested in one thing and try to hit on you pushing you to leave the restaurant and enticing you to a motel. If he does that, turn him down. He is still a stranger to you and you don't know what he might try to do.
Don't let him pull you away. Stay in control and don't let him manipulate you. When you have stood your ground and he leaves without you anyway, then the date is all over and it's time to move on.
3 - Common Ground - If you find that neither of you have nothing in common, that's a sign he's not a match. You must have at least one thing in common to pursue a relationship. Even if it's just pets, that's a great interest. If he won't talk about his hobbies, interests or pets, than the conversation is over.
The best way to find out is to dig a little and ask him questions of interest. Before you go on your date, write down everything you can think of to ask him. You may have forgotten something that is of interest to both of you. It takes some common interest for a relationship to work.
These are the 3 things to look for to know if your first date is a match. Keep in mind that there are more fish in the sea if he is not a match. Don't let it get you down just because the date didn't work out this time. You just haven't found your dream date. Keep dating and you'll find him.
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