Friends With Benefits - What To Expect When You're Bed Buddies With A Guy Friend

Are you between relationships but miss having the physical closeness that comes with sex? Do you share a close friendship with a guy you are attracted to? Do you think that a friends with benefits pact might be better than doing the one night stand thing? The friends with benefits idea can be pretty appealing for you if you have a likely candidate in mind. After all, you think, what could be safer and easier than a relationship like that?

It's A Big Change

Before you make the decision, there are a few things you should think about. For instance, once you enter a friends with benefits arrangement, everything changes between you and you friend.

And this is certainly one of the things you need to consider. Are you willing to risk your close friendship for the sake of having sex without worrying about who your partner is going to be? If you think you can keep that part separate, you're dead wrong.

What To Expect

This is a no-strings-attached arrangement which works for both of you because you are both unattached. But what do you think is going to happen when (not if - because remember you're not going out) he meets and falls in love with another woman?

Well, for starters, it's highly doubtful that the "other woman" will want his benefits arrangement to continue. It's also pretty unlikely that you and she could ever become close friends, and it's doubtful that she will want you and her new boyfriend to stay friends either. And you can't really blame her for those feelings.

Having sex with any man involves a certain degree of trust and an opening up of your private self. It will lead to a feeling of closeness that wouldn't be there if you had a different partner each time.

That's how you'll feel at least. But it probably won't be the same for him. There are female hormones at work here, creating those feelings inside of you. Since he doesn't have those hormones he won't experience the same feelings. And you might be hurt and depressed when he doesn't, so you need to be ready for that. And that's another problem with this type of sexual relationship.

What Happens When You Fall In Love?

Oh and let's not forget that when you are attracted to a man and you are feeling the closeness that comes with being physical together, it's not a huge stretch to suddenly realize that you are falling in love.

When that happens you're no longer having sex together. All of a sudden you're making love. And that's a huge difference, although probably only you realize that things have changed. Unless he has fallen for you too, there aren't many benefits to the arrangement anymore because sooner or later it will all come to an end.

You need to carefully look at this "friends with benefits" thing from all sides before you take it on. It's not an easy decision and if you're having trouble deciding what to do, I'd like to help!