Dating can make you feel both excited and sick all at the same time. For someone looking for a relationship, not just a hook up, dating holds not only the hope for a bright and loving future but also the possibility of pain and heartbreak. Dating is rough. People aren't always what they seem. When you start the dating process, you are usually on your best behavior. But many people try to be someone they aren't in order to convince the person they are dating that they have found exactly who they were looking for. But that doesn't result in a happy ending. Sure, you want to be on your best behavior...put your best foot forward. But you still want to be yourself. The goal is not to dupe someone into being in a relationship with you. The goal is to find someone who loves you for who you are and accepts you...faults and all.
Many single Christians find dating difficult. It is assumed that the church is the best place to find that special someone but that isn't always the case. Many churches have grown so large that many people end up feeling invisible, just a random face in the crowd.
Unfortunately, unless they take part in small group activities, getting to know others can be hard. There doesn't seem to be as much socializing after church as there used to be. Back in the day, the church sermon was just the beginning of your Sunday morning. After church there would be a potluck and the congregation would gather to get to know each other better and make lasting friendships. Nowadays, many churches have abandoned that tradition and therefore people can attend the same church for years and never really know anyone.
The world we live in is chaotic and moves at a hectic pace. It seems more and more individuals follow the "get in and get out" philosophy when it comes to going to Church. We all want to be fed, but we also have busy lives and things to do so we don't stick around afterward. So what is one to do when they want to fellowship with other believers and meet someone special who just may end up being their soul mate? The obvious choice is to make an effort in getting involved with your Church or small group. Most churches have a singles group that gets together at least once, maybe twice, a week. You can also look into outreach. Focus on helping others and you may just find what you are looking for when you stop looking. But if you are really wanting to jump into dating feet first, try online dating.
There are many online dating websites available on the Internet today. Some are geared toward the general public and others are created specifically for Christians.
Even though some single Christians may feel self-conscious about stepping into the world of Online Dating, there is no reason. Christian Dating is alive and well on the Internet and using the web to start meeting new Christian singles in your area is a fantastic way to socialize with people who take their faith as seriously as you do. Where else can you go to meet other Christians? If Church isn't filling that specific desire and obviously, going to bars and clubs to meet other Christian singles is not ideal, going to the Internet is the apparent choice.
My suggestion is to find a dating website that focuses on Christian Dating so that you know that the matches you get are Christian Singles. It is disappointing to see you have a match only to find out they have no interest in the Lord. The bible does state not to be yoked together with unbelievers so it is important to restrict your dating pool to other Christians. Obviously, befriending non-Christians is a good thing because you then have the opportunity to be a witness for Christ. But when it comes to giving your heart to someone else, you need to give it to someone who shares your belief and your faith. Hence, it is advisable to utilize a Christian Dating Website when beginning your online dating journey.
Once you find the right Christina dating site and being to create your profile, be honest. Be yourself. Take to heart the fact that you are special and unique and deserving to find happiness. Do you have your faults? Absolutely. We all do. We all have things about ourselves that we wish we could change and if there is something that you want to change about yourself..something that you want to work on...go for it. But don't hide who you are by trying to stuff yourself into someone else's ideal. Putting yourself out there is scary. Rejection is difficult to take but you can't look at rejection as you being rejected. You need to change your perspective. If someone does not or can not relate to you or make a connection with you...they aren't someone that you want to waste your time with. You move on and consider that you are one more person closer to finding that one individual who you can build a life with.
Are you guaranteed love? None of us are. But we all deserve a chance at having a fulfilling, loving relationship and there is nothing wrong in trying to jump-start the search by taking the step toward online Christian dating.
But I offer a word of caution. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and your date as you embark on the dating journey. A date is just a date. Don't go into a date with expectations that this person is going to be "The One". Just enjoy the night out. Enjoy the date at face value. Taking a more laid back attitude toward dating can help ease a lot of the unnecessary tension and stress that can come from dating. Dating can be fun. Enjoy the new experiences. Enjoy the company, the movie or the dinner. At the end of the day, if there is a connection there will be another date. If there isn't....then at least you got a good meal and you move on. A little self-confidence and perspective can go a long way toward success in dating.
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