Does He Love Me - How Can I Tell?

Anyone that has been in a relationship for a while will at some point start to wonder "Does he love me?"

Most of us have been in this position at least once and it can drive you absolutely crazy. The more you like the guy, the more desperate you will be to find out if he does love you. Most guys are experts at not giving away how they feel about you which can make you so anxious that you can't even work!

If you find yourself in this situation, the absolute worst thing you can do is corner him and just ask him straight out if he loves you. Whether he loves you or not will no longer be the issue. He will feel like you ambushed him and trapped him which is not the way you want him to feel. Chances are good that after this conversation, he will get harder to find and will soon disappear from your life.

Why is this? Remember that guys don't communicate the same way that women do. Ambushing him and causing him to verbalize his feelings will scare him to death.

So, how do you know how he feels without asking him? Luckily, there are a few things you can look for that will give you a very good idea how he feels about you.

Let's take a second and talk about something that most women think is a clue that he loves them but really isn't. Have you ever been with a guy that you had great chemistry with that you were wildly attracted to and you loved to do the same things he did? While you may see this as love, he may just see you as a woman he can have a great time with while he is waiting for the one to come along. So what is missing?

All guys will fall in love with a woman that he feels is an extension of who he is. They will look for a woman that has the values that they grew up with and many of them will look for a woman who has traits similar to their mothers.

So, does he love you? Men who are committed and who are in love have the following things in common.

1. He compliments you. Have you ever dressed up and felt great about how you look only to have no one notice? Guys are usually pretty oblivious to what we wear and if he notices and actually comments, that's a sign.

2. He takes care of you. This could be demonstrated in a lot of ways. He stays with you when you are sick to do anything he can to make you feel better. Or, he fixes things that are broken for you. A man who loves you will do anything he can to make you feel better. It is just the way they are wired.

3. He actually listens to you. This doesn't mean that he does what you tell him to do! I mean, he really takes an interest in what you are saying and responds appropriately, even if the television is on.

Guys in general do not excel at any of these things. If you notice that he compliments you, takes care of you and really listens to you, you don't have to ask him if he loves you. A guy who is just casually dating you won't do these things. Why would he bother trying to make you happy if he doesn't intend to stick around?

But, don't panic if he isn't doing any of these things. There are several reasons why he isn't. It might be too soon in the relationship for him or it could be something that you are doing. Many times the things we do to bring him closer actually push him farther away.