We think we know a lot about how relationships work because of the numerous self-help books and articles available on the internet but there seems to be a great amount of confusion because of so many conflicting views. There also seems to be confusion whether or not chasing is still necessary. Whatever your reasons or, sometimes all it takes is a great deal of trial and error but who has the time to do that when other women have been there already and they can tell you exactly what works. If you want to know how to get him to come to you, first, you have to learn how to attract a guy. If you fail in that department, I'm sorry to burst your bubble but having a guy ask you out on a date will seem to be an impossible task.
1.) Don't Act Desperate
One major turn-off for guys is desperation. No matter how attractive you look, a man won't get attracted to you if all you talk about is getting married and having babies. Whatever you do, do not talk about how worried you are that the clock is ticking and you are looking for a serious relationship on a first date. I think for us women, desperation roots from the panic we feel of growing old alone and when we keep thinking about that, we put too much importance on finding a man. I find life rather ironic because the more you look for Mr. Right the more he eludes you.
You have to realize that the key to attracting men is to make sure you value all other aspects of your life such as career, family, friends, hobbies, etc. as much as much as you give meaning to having a man in your life. When you keep an equal weight on every area of your life, you become more interesting and attractive. This will also make you feel more confident.
2.) Don't Play Games
I don't understand why so many women think that playing mind games will get them the relationship they wanted. You act unavailable and then you expect a man to work harder. You wait 3 days before replying to a text message and when a man does the same you get infuriated. You ignore the guy and pretend he doesn't even exist when in reality you are dying to talk to him. Sending a guy the wrong signals will not get him to come to you and the sooner you realize that the better off everyone will be. Playing games can ruin every great relationship you can potentially have. If really like the guy then let him know. If you can't tell it to his face, find ways on how you can make him feel you are into him but do it subtly. You don't want to be all over him that you'll end up scaring him away. Be yourself and be honest.
Keep in mind that when you start a relationship with games, you will never be happy and everything will fall apart eventually. A relationship should have honesty as one of its major building blocks.
3.) Dress Attractively but not Provocatively
Men are visual creatures, we already know that and the fastest way to get his attention is to dress up attractively. Sadly, a lot of women take this the wrong way and think that the more skin she shows the better her chances are in attracting a guy. Sure, wearing skimpy clothes will make a man look at you but how far do you want to take it? Dressing to show your curves doesn't equate to baring all. You can dress attractively without giving everyone a view of everything you got. Make sure you dress appropriately for every occasion and choose the right size for you. Choose dresses that compliment your body shape that leaves a lot to the imagination.
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