If you feel your man's attention slipping away from you or notice that he seems bored with the relationship, it can really cause frustration and anxiety.
Here's some tips to help you step up your game and keep him into you:
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
He may not want to break up necessarily; it's possible he just feels the need for some space. Even though it can be hard when you love someone and want to spend every moment of them, you'll find it beneficial to back off.
Spend less time with him. Go out and do your own thing. Take a trip with your girlfriends or even alone. The separation will (hopefully) make him miss you and act differently when you're back.
Make Him Jealous
Sure, it's a dirty trick, but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do.
Make a new male friend and start up with a completely platonic friendship. If you already have a good guy friend, then spend more time with him. Whoever you choose should be attractive and capable of causing some serious envy. Simply spending a lot of time with your friend and receiving texts and calls from him while your boyfriend is around will be more than enough to do the trick.
If you really want to push the envelope, flirt with other guys when you and your boyfriend are out together.
Try a New Look
You don't need to spend a fortune on a new wardrobe and a full makeover, but some changes here and there in your physical style and appearance can work wonders.
Go get your hair done and try out a new color or some great highlights. Buy a pair of really sexy heels or a pair of jeans you look great in. A killer little black dress is a great buy as well.
Get Out of Boring Patterns
If you've been with your guy a while and the two of you have fallen into a boring pattern, it's time to mix things up.
Don't stay in every night if the two of you are couch potatoes. Go out dancing or try a new restaurant. Suggest taking a trip together and enjoying a romantic getaway, then make the arrangements. Adding excitement and trying new things might change his attitude and get him out of his funk.
Spice Up the Bedroom Situation
Men are very sexual. They need an active and satisfying sex life to be completely content with their lives. So if you aren't putting out enough and the two of you don't have sex much anymore, that's got to change.
Start simply by buying some really naughty lingerie you look good in and putting it away in the bedroom somewhere; you can keep it there like a weapon to use at will. When the two of you are lying in bed, ask him if there's something new he'd like to try sexually or if he has fantasies he'd love to act out with you. Get the conversation rolling and see where it leads.
Concentrate on Your Life and Happiness
It's important to focus on you, because it will help you freak out less about whether or not your boyfriend is still in love with you.
Spend time with your family and friends, work harder at your job, engage in your hobbies or take a class you've wanted to take for a while. This will re-establish your identity and give you confidence you need. If you have a life that's full and exciting, you'll be less likely to fall apart just because you and your boyfriend end up splitting.
Have a Talk With Him
Pick the right time and place and simply state your concerns. Ask him if he's still interested, using whatever words you want to use.
Remember to stay calm and rational; don't accuse him of anything of fly off the handle. You'll never know what's going on inside his head unless you ask and really listen to the answer.
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