The idea of being able to seduce a woman online is a pleasant one. If you are the kind of guy who doesn't like to go out to clubs where the music is too loud and the bass is so deep you can feel it in your stomach, you might feel like being able to use an online dating site to try and seduce a woman is the best option available. I really can't disagree with you there. I don't mind the club scene myself, but at the same time, online dating sites can be a great place to meet women.
Here is the rub, though.
You can't be afraid to actually meet up with a woman you meet online in person. And you have to know that this is what has to happen when you go into using online dating sites. You can't adopt some phony online persona and then expect that you are going to be able to impress her when you actually get the chance to meet up with her.
Because, let's be real, you really can't seduce a woman online as much as you can meet a woman and then meet up with her and then see if the sparks are really there.
Some guys forget that this has to take place.
They'll concoct a phony story about who they are. Or, they will act really BOLD online when they are nothing but meek in person. You have to remember that whomever it is that she feels like she is falling for when you meet on the web, she has to feel like that is the same guy that she is meeting in person.
It's not that hard to find a woman to talk to online. It's not that hard to build up enough attraction with her so that she wants to meet up with you in person. It's not even that hard to be able to escalate things when you do meet up in person - if you stay congruent throughout the whole process.
I'm always reminded of a mistake that a friend of mine made. He played up this kind of phony version of himself online, acting like he was a little more successful than he really was. When it came time to meet the woman face to face, he had to deal with the reality that he wasn't that successful.
Of course, the sparks were not there when he actually was with her face to face. I don't think it had much to do with his lack of success as it did with the fact that he was clearly portraying himself one way online and then when she met up with him - it was like she was meeting a totally different guy.
See, you have to be able to make that transition where you can actually go out on a date with her, and you need to keep that in mind from the very beginning. Do that and you probably will find that it is actually kind of easy to seduce a woman online.
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