For Success in the Dating Game, Know and Like Yourself First

Self-confidence is the best "marketing tool" a man can have in order to successfully sell himself to women.

Marketing tool? Yes, because you are, in a very real sense, engaged in a form of marketing. You are involved in the act of promoting your Number One commodity, and that is you, yourself.

To be an effective marketer, you must possess self-confidence, and the best way to gain this self-confidence is to understand yourself, your needs your desires and your capabilities.

Most guys would probably say they already know themselves pretty well. But do they? Sure they can probably tell you About their likes and dislikes, their beliefs and values, and maybe even their lifetime goals. They may even be able to tell you a few things they don't like about themselves.

Although the ability to list your major qualities (and shortcomings) is a good start in knowing yourself, it really goes a bit beyond that. Truly knowing yourself includes taking an honest stock of yourself and being able to admit not only your talents but also those things that you are very good at.

If you're honest about your shortcomings, you can also be equally honest about your positive qualities. This will give you useful insight into yourself and boost your ego just a little bit.

The important thing to remember is that if you want any woman to be attracted to you, you must make her want you. No one is going to want to be with you out of pity. You have to let her know that a relationship with her is to her advantage.

You may need to make some changes to boost your self image. If you're insecure about your weight or embarrassed by your job, you may want to make changes to those things so as to boost your self confidence, if they keep you from approaching women as often as you'd like.

You can buy shoes that make you look taller or clothes it make you look slimmer. Engage in activities that make you feel good. Style your hair a little differently. Work out a bit if this is your thing. Learn to increase your skills in conversation and attracting the opposite sex.

But most importantly. you also want to do whatever you can to make yourself more likable to the only one who really matters: you. Truly liking yourself does not mean reading books on self-esteem. It means becoming a truly likable person and treating others with the consideration and respect with which you would want to be treated yourself. It all comes down to the golden rule.

If you follow this rule, there is no reason you should not like yourself. All books and self-esteem can then be thrown away.

Of course, this is not to say that self-liking is the same as self-confidence. You may not have self-confidence in all areas. Most people have self-confidence in some areas but not in others. A guy may be extremely confident about his ability as a skier, for example, but not so confident about his ability with women. You simply need to build up your skill sets in those areas in which you lack confidence.

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