Did you know that the most important decisions about a person are made within split seconds of first seeing them?
Yes!
It's the first impression you make that decides whether that girl you want to pick up likes you or not and...
...that same first impression is a crucial factor in determining if you're even worth talking to or not.
This first impression can be made upon a glance; you may not even get the chance to open your mouth and say something, or even smile, before a girl has decided what she thinks of you. When you consider it, you will realize that you do the exact same thing as well. When you see a girl, you mentally categorize her. You decide how pretty you think she is, if she takes care of herself, if she uses body language flirting to get you attracted to her and if you're interested. You decide if she looks like a person you want to get to know - or more. Or you decide if you want to avoid her like the plague.
That's why it's absolutely necessary to do whatever it takes to really make a smashing first impression, but...
...how do you do that?
You might not have the first idea of where to start. Well, there are a few things that need to be utilized to achieve that goal, so...
...let me get through them for you now. They'll be very useful together with some good body language flirting.
Ready?
Be Sociable.
No body language flirting will help you make a great first impression, if you don't get out there and talk to people.
Let me ask you, what's the first thing that comes to mind when you see someone who's sitting alone in the corner of a room, and not talking to anyone? If you're anything like me, you probably feel there's something wrong with that person and... you avoid them. One, they look like they're absolutely no fun. They either don't know how to have a good time, are too shy to come up and talk to anyone, or they're so not worth talking to that other people have decided to leave them alone. You make that split-second judgment and decision on a first impression, just like I talked about.
So if you don't want to end up like them, with people totally ignoring and avoiding you, it's important that you are sociable.
Get out of your shell, if you have a habit of hiding in one, and talk to people.
Laugh.
Smile.
Use how you walk, how you move your hands and other body language flirting strategies.
Be comfortable with who you are, and you'll get herds of women wanting to talk to you. After all, who doesn't want to have a friendly chat with the most popular person in the room?
I know a lot of you may have a hard time coming out of your shells, and that is understandable. However, the best thing you can do for yourself and your happiness is to get over it. The first few times you find yourself opening up to people, you will realize that it isn't so hard or that big of a deal. And hey, keep in mind that if you mess up - you're awkward, or people reject you - it isn't the end of the world. This is part of the process of learning how to communicate and how to act. Everyone falls down at some point or other, and the important part of this is that you pick yourself up and move on. The next person you talk to will get you out of your shell even more, and then the next, until you look back and realize that it doesn't bother you in the slightest to be sociable. You will eventually find yourself having a bunch of fun, and that is the whole point.
Be Funny.
Apart from using body language flirting and showing a girl you think she's attractive with your non verbal language, it's very important to be funny.
There are two things you're communicating to a girl when you're able to drop a good joke every now and then while talking to her.
One, you tell her that you're comfortable around her, and two, you show her that you're intelligent and... exciting!
On top of that, if your jokes are actually funny, you will make her laugh, which has been proven to be one of the most effective ice breakers out there, so...
...be funny and women will be drawn to you!
You may not be the best joke teller.
Well, one way to improve that is to practice. That's what comedians do, and if it works for them, it's going to work for you too.
Find out what style fits you best, when it comes to being funny. Maybe you're better at telling stories than you are at delivering one-liners. If so, craft a few amusing stories to carry around in your back pocket. When the occasion arises, you'll have the perfect ice-breaker and a way to really charm a woman.
When you have more than one story or joke, you can either find the right one to suit the moment you're in, or just continue to be really entertaining. You can't go wrong when it comes to being funny, so long as it's coming to you naturally and isn't forced.
Be Unique.
I am sure you've heard this before, but it's so important that I really want to make sure you get it.
Most pickup and dating programs out there will tell you that you should use specific lines or approaches together with body language flirting, which, they say, have been proven to work.
The only problem is that if too many people use those approaches, the girl you're trying to pick up will get completely sick of them and what's more... ...she'll think that you're one of those retards telling her the same thing over and over again. She's so sick of the same lines and the same type of lame guys that it isn't even funny. I am sure I don't have to tell you what that would do, right? You have a mind that is capable of coming up with ways to attract any girl out there. You might fail sometimes, but generally speaking, it's easier than you think. There's absolutely no point in trying to be like all the other guys out there.
You're your own person with your own strengths, and you don't want to be like any other guy. You want to be the cool person that you know you are.
The sky is the limit when it comes to ways you can use to get a friendly conversation going.
So, here's what you do...
Sit back and think about what makes you unique and interesting. Think back to those things that you were proud of in your life. Work from that, not from a bunch of corny jokes and flimsy body language flirting techniques you and one hundred other guys read about.
This is how you're going to have success.
First by having a good idea of what makes you unique, and by being able to incorporate it into conversation that will engage her and make her more intrigued by you.
Keep in mind, also, that when you have refined the way you're acting and know how to make a good first impression, there will still be times when the person you are interacting with just doesn't feel it.
You won't feel them, either.
First impressions really do decide how a relationship of any kind will continue, and so if you don't feel it within the first few minutes, just write it off. No body language flirting or other tricks are going to help here.
Move on to the next, if you feel like you're wasting your time. It isn't a big deal.
There you go.
You've just gone through some of the most basic, but at the same time, most effective first impression pointers out there. Use them. They're good.
I use them, together with body language flirting all the time and... with awesome success!
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