Friday, October 7, 2011

How To Text A Girl You Like - When And How Often To Text Her

One of the most important parts of how to text a girl you like is to know when and how often to text her. So, in this article, I'm going to be answering the questions, "How often should you text a girl?", "When to text a girl you just met?" and, "What to do when a woman doesn't respond to your text?"

OK, let's address the first question...

How Often Should You Text A Girl?

First off, let me just say that I know how easy it can be to get all worked up about texting a girl, especially a girl you really like. You get really excited and want to text her every chance you get.

The problem is by being so invested in her you are already on a fast track to needy behavior and this will only push her away. It's important to have the right mindset so that you can keep you cool.

With that being said, the key to texting a girl is not to over do it. You don't want to be texting her all day, everyday. Even if she text you back every single time, it still lowers your value and make it seem like you have nothing better going on in your life.

Now I'm not saying that you should never reply to a girls text right way. You can. Just mix it up a little bit and keep it unpredictable. Sometime wait 10 minutes. Sometime wait an hour. And sometime just leave her hanging.

Let Her Have The Last Text

That's right. When ever possible, you should let her have the last word in the conversation by not replying to her text. By doing this you leave and open loop in her mind and it gets her thinking about you, wondering if you'll text back.

Another good rule is to match or beat her respond time. If it takes her 15 minutes to reply to your text, then you should take 15 minutes (or a few minutes more) to reply to her. Childish? Yes. But it keeps you in control of the interaction and it works to build attraction.

Here's another tip. Don't text a girl between the hours of 8 PM and 1 AM on Friday and Saturday. Why? Because those are going out time for most people and texting her at those hours will make it seem like you don't have anything better to do on the weekends.

When To Text A Girl You Just Met?

There might be some controversy over this, but I think you should send your first text to a girl within 24 hours of you meeting her. If you wait any longer than that, then you risk her losing some of the attraction that she felt for you when you first met.

Also, it's a good way to avoid the awkward, "Who is this?" text back from her.

Ideally, I like to send her a quick, fun text after 5 to 10 minutes from when we just met. It keeps the momentum of the interaction going creates a dynamic where it's natural for us to text each other.

If you worry about this coming off as too eager, don't worry! As long as your text is casual and playful, you won't have this problem. Just follow the guide lines that I've set out in my other articles.

What To Do When A Woman Doesn't Respond To Your Text?

This can happen sometime and it's no big deal. Just don't give up.

Here a good rule to use when a woman doesn't text you back:

If she did text you back, wait a day then text her again. Still no response? Wait two days, then text her back. Still no response? Wait three days, then text her back.

And the important thing to remember is that your text to her should not be needy or angry. In fact, the attitude to take is that you didn't even notice that she didn't text you back and just start the conversation with some random thread.



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