Do You Want A Relationship? Then Drop The Ego

Do you know what ruins the possibility of most relationships taking off?

Ego always ruins it.

Here you are, hanging out with a woman you've been out with three or four times. You're getting along great, and you know it. You're having a good time, and then all of a sudden, one of you gets scared - which always happens. Someone always gets scared.

So all of a sudden, she stops calling, or she doesn't text you back right away. And what do you do?

Your ego works to protect yourself, and you basically say to yourself, fuck it - it's not going to work out.

In reality, your ego was actually just protecting you from becoming even more vulnerable.

Then you rationalize to yourself by just submerging yourself in work or whatever it is. Your ego is just trying to protect yourself the whole time.

Life might just take one more phone call. Call that person out and say to them, "hey, what's going on? I don't get it. You and I were having a good time, and then you disappear. What's going on?"

By calling somebody out on their shit, you're going to get a response that will be far different than you ever imagined. Maybe she just needed that extra push.

Women like to feel safe. Maybe she did get a little bit scared, and when a woman gets scared, what does she want? She wants to be protected by her man.

A real man is going to make her feel protected and make her feel safe. That's what women are craving - that feeling of safety and security. Women are nesters. Women are looking at you as a potential husband or father, and they want to feel very safe.

And by you saying, screw it, and just walking away, you proved to her that little doubt that she had about you was 100% correct. Just because you didn't want to become vulnerable and you had to protect your ego. You wanted to save face.

And who might you be saving face from? Her friends if she talks to them? If you call her and just tell her what's up, she's going to go to her friends and say: "Joe called, and he just wants to know what's going on with me. What should I do?" If her friends know that she likes you, all her friends will be encouraging her to call you.

So your ego just protected you from nothing.

You have to lose the ego. If you really want a true, spectacular relationship, drop the ego. When you go to meet somebody, drop the ego. Stop worrying about what other people say and just live your life to the fullest every day by becoming vulnerable.

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