Inner game is how you feel about yourself, but most importantly your self-talk. Unfortunately, most people look to improve their outer game first. Outer game being how you present/ carry yourself, and above all else, how you talk to girls. One of the most searched phrases on Google is "how to talk to girls." Let me make myself absolutely clear: if you're not a natural i.e. Don juan, casanova, etc. or 1% of the male population, work on your inner game first rather than your outer game.
What person will love you, if you don't love yourself? Another interesting statistic, "90% of people that pick up dating materials (the game, double your dating, etc.) fail at getting good with women." Why? Because those books and most of the other ones focus on outer game. They use techniques, peacock methods, formulaic approaches, and various ways to "open sets" rather than working on the real problems within. Rather than building the confidence up in the person.
My solutions for the best Inner Game (More to follow in other posts but the main one's here. You can just scroll down and read each number rather than reading each and every summary):
1) Identify any and all weaknesses that you have
Take some time to think and write down on a piece of paper what you're weaknesses are. For example, maybe you don't like talking to people. Or maybe you feel like you're weight is an issue. Right them all down. Get them off your chest. We'll call this List 1.
2) Summarize your weakness into one word and list all of them (List 2)
On this list write down 5-10 ways to improve or possible solutions for this weakness. Now save List 2 and burn List 1. That's right, destroy it. Rip it up. Shred it. Stomp it. Do all the above, spit on it for all I care. These weaknesses are now gone and only solutions remain.
3) Take sometime and close your eyes
Imagine in your head what this new person looks like without said weaknesses and see the new you! See yourself doing things that you couldn't have done before. Let this be the moment that you have good luck and only good things happen from here.
4) Embrace Your Solutions
Now that you have 5-10 solutions per weakness, start working on them. This is the main reason why most people's issues go unsolved. They run from their problems and even potential solutions for those problems-hit them head-on.
5) Suck up your pride and Seek Help
We all know one person that is good at what we fail at. Hopefully a solution to one of your weaknesses is "get advice from Joe, Tom, or Susan" etc. You might be terrible at soccer; ask a friend for some help and tips. You might be a real critical, negative person; seek out the most happy go lucky person you know. You might be a terrible money manager; seek me out! If you have no one to go to, email me or Oprah..we'll tandem solve your problem if possible.
These 5 solutions are the tip of the sword. I can't emphasize enough to embrace your issues, weaknesses, and problems. Face them with some back bone and gall. Don't rationalize anything in life anymore. I'll continue with more techniques for solid Inner Game later.
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