You know why happiness is called an inside "job"... 'cause it really takes some doin' to keep ourselves happy doesn't it? And it takes some serious effort if you're trying to keep/make someone else happy. In fact, it is truly counterproductive to try to keep/make a man happy, or rely on him to make you happy.
In the long run, you'll both end up disappointed and resenting the other because you relied on each other for your happiness, instead of looking within. Neither of you can stand on your head in enough ways to keep each other feeling good all the time. It is a futile attempt, and definitely detrimental to your health and sex life in the long run.
Dr. Joseph Murphy in his book "The Power of Your Subconscious Mind" said "A woman is not dependent on her husband (insert your own title if you prefer, i.e. boyfriend, partner, date) for health, peace, joy, inspiration, guidance, love, wealth, security, happiness, or anything in the world. Her security and peace of mind come from her knowledge of the powers within her & from the constant use of the laws of her own mind in a constructive fashion."
Bottom line... No one can make you happy. It is your work and your work alone. Happiness is a state of mind, and you have the freedom to choose happiness. Happiness is your natural state of being. When you realize that no one other than yourself is responsible for how you feel you will find true happiness. If you believe that others are responsible for your happiness, you are in self-bondage, because you cannot control how others feel or how they behave. You have complete control over how you feel, and if you are to remain or return to the happy being you are naturally, you must tend to the alignment between you & You (your inner being/Source).
When you really care about someone it is no small undertaking to not hold them responsible for how you feel, but you just have to let them off the hook. You are the attractor of your experience. No one can keep you amused & happy day in and day out and you should not require their constant approval or attention to be happy with yourself. Allow them to be as they "be," while you tend to your own vibration, and watch your power of influence in your relationship. You will find your relationship delicious & satisfying. And if you have tended to your vibration on a regular basis, and he is not in harmony with your vibration he will naturally gravitate out of your experience and a new more satisfying relationship will move into your experience.
Two people who come together knowing that they are responsible for their own happiness, and seeking alignment with themselves first, is the making of a co-creative relationship that will satisfy you both to no end.
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