Thursday, November 22, 2012

The Do's and Don'ts of a Workplace Love Affair

It's not unusual for two people who are in the same workplace to fall in love. Critics would say it is for convenience since both parties won't have to adjust to different work schedules or different locations. There might be some truth to it but more than convenience, creating relationship with someone in the same workplace as yours root from something else. Given that you spend more time around each other's presence, you both get to know more about each other - what makes her smile or captures her attention and what can frustrate him and how he reacts to things.

Probably everyone of us knows someone who met his or her life partner at work but not all love affairs in the workplace work though. Some last through their lifetime while some, unfortunately, end for various reasons.

Are you in or about to enter a love affair in the workplace? Here are some do's and don't to help you get by.

Do's

  • Do consider company rules. Some companies prohibit workers from having relationships while currently employed by them so check out your employee handbook or employment contract before you and your co-worker walk together in love.

  • Do maintain professionalism at work. It's not wrong to demonstrate your love to your partner while in the workplace, but remember to reserve those playful and naughty gestures for your alone time, or at least at the end of your work hours. You wouldn't want to get caught by your boss flirting with your partner when you are instead doing your work, do you?

Don'ts

  • Don't take advantage of your position in the company. If you are in the managerial position and your partner is under your leadership, don't use your power for his or her advantage. Exercise fairness in the company and give your people the credit (or sanction) due to them. If your partner deserves a raise or promotion, then do so but don't cover him/her up when s/he did something prohibited. After all, a good partner should inspire you to become a better person, not encourage or tolerate wrong doings.

  • Don't bring relationship issues at work and vice versa. This is perhaps one of the most common problems affecting relationships. Difficult but it is important to avoid mixing personal and work matters to make the relationship work and still be able to do your job effectively. If you are stressed due to office problems, don't take it out on your partner. Alternatively, if you are having issues with your partner, try not to let it affect your productivity in the office.

Love affairs in the workplace can be challenging yet something you cannot avoid when it hits you. Just don't let your emotions rule over your judgment.



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How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - You Don't Stand Much of a Chance If You Are Just Her Friend

This is something that you really just have to accept as being the truth if you want to get back with your ex girlfriend and that is, you don't stand much of a chance of being able to get her back if you end up being stuck in the friend zone with her. Once you allow the dynamic to change like that, you are going to find that it becomes harder and harder to make her see you as being anything more than just a friend. While it may feel good to know that you are still "friends" with her, at some point it isn't going to feel so good when you realize that she doesn't even consider getting back with you a possibility.

Why It Doesn't Work to Be Her Friend -

Unlike guys, most women won't cross the line between friendship and something more and if they do, they usually put a lot of thought into it beforehand. With a guy, we'll cross that line without giving it much though, as long as we think she is attractive enough to make it worth it. Most women don't think like that and the moment that you try to be your ex girlfriend's friend is the moment that she no longer considers dating you a possibility. Sure, she'll hang out with you and call you on the phone, but you have next to no chance of being able to progress things with her as long as you are just her friend.

What You Should Be Doing Instead -

Instead of trying to be her friend and allowing her to talk your ear off about things that you don't want to hear about, you have to find a way to make some clear boundaries with her. She has to know that you are not someone that she can talk about guys she likes with. The moment that you hear your ex girlfriend try to get your advice on a guy she likes, that should be a moment where you realize that things definitely are NOT progressing the way that you want them to. However, when you have clear boundaries with her and you don't try to be her friend that she can gab about those kinds of things with, then you do still have some chance of being able to win her back.

That is, as long as you know what techniques work to make her feel like she is still very much attracted to you.



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Fake Profiles: The Bane of Online Dating

We've all seen them before. Those profiles that look almost too good to be true, chock full of airbrushed pictures of supermodel caliber people. You wonder, "why is this person on a dating site?" and then quickly abandon the thought because it makes you feel like there's something wrong with you for dating online. And the words... they read as if the person is literally inside of your head, spying on your very thoughts. The similarities and mutual interests are almost uncanny. The eyes don't look like they belong to a serial killer so you decide to give it a shot and send them a message.

Albeit a long-shot you click on the "send" button. What the heck, right?

This is it. Maybe, just maybe, you've found the perfect person.

Wow - they responded to the message! They liked your profile and indicated that they hadn't found anyone yet. You do the "Carleton Dance" because you're so happy! You take your time as you respond, making sure to craft the perfect message back. Then you consider timing. Don't want to seem too anxious but also don't want to let the opportunity slip. After all, this person is absolutely hot and others are surely sending them messages as well.

The emails start off slow at first and then there's something in there that really sparks your interest and you decide to delve further into this new person. It's time to move the conversation offline and to a more intimate medium - the phone. You get just a little antsy about the first call. What's their voice going to sound like? Will it match how their profile looks? No worries... it does! Matter of fact, the conversation is one of the best you've ever had with anyone, including in person. No dead spots, smooth transitions and lengthy talks for hours that don't even feel like it.

The vibe is growing so you begin to drop hints about meeting in person. The object of your affection flirts around with the idea - which makes you want to meet them even more! You both plan for something in the near future and that satisfies you for the moment. Let's say a week goes by after you've both acknowledged the need to meet but the other person hasn't taken action yet. After a while, you begin to think that too much time is elapsing so you're just forthright about it and ask for formal plans.

Then, one of two things happens. Either communication slows to a snail's pace and eventually drops off completely... or their tone changes a bit and they begrudgingly agree to meet. To keep the story going, let's assume the latter happened.

You chalk up what you believe is a bit of hesitation on their part to nerves and reassure them that you really like them and that you don't think the vibe is going to be different when you finally meet. And then... the day arrives.

Perhaps they don't look anything like their profile at all. You wonder how on earth they had the audacity to post a profile of someone completely different but try not to bring it up. You just plan your escape route throughout the date and try to muffle the sense of disappointment you feel about investing so much time into someone that wasn't honest with you.

Or, the likelier scenario... is that it's obvious the profile they posted was how they looked five years or fifty pounds ago.

Your opinion of online dating is forever marred and you vow that you're going to cancel your subscription to the dating site and just try it the conventional way again.

Fake profiles are, in fact, the very bane of every online dating site. Unfortunately, the crimes of a few tend to taint the opinions of many. It doesn't have to be that way though! One way of permanently thwarting the fake profile is for online sites to move to the next logical phase... video profiles! They have the potential to change the dating game forever because they force members into accepting themselves for who they are and portraying that to others.

Ultimately, this is exactly what needs to happen for online dating to continue to evolve. People need to accept who they are, flaws and all, and have some confidence in themselves and the ability of others to see beyond what they might perceive as imperfections. And people that are looking for perfection need to get over themselves and look for what's really important in a person. That can't happen without a forum that strips away the artificiality of online dating and forces people to be real.

If you belong to the unscrupulous crowd that hasn't been honest in the past, put all your cards on the table and stop posting fake profiles. They do nothing but waste everyone's valuable time and unnecessarily tarnish the reputation of online dating. And if you're serious enough about finding love online, don't hide behind the mask of the computer screen. Let people know exactly who they're dealing with. It's only fair and best to be upfront rather than to delay the inevitable that will surely result from lying.



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Wednesday, November 21, 2012

The Approach That Triggers Attraction

Are you tired of being seen as a just friend zone type of man. Here's a quick way to prevent that perception from the very beginning. This approach is based on evolutionary biology and psychology that's built into every women's DNA and bodily chemistry.

She's preprogrammed to respond to signals of male dominance. When it comes to sexual attraction, that biological programming is in charge and all logic goes right out the window. Biologically she has no choice in the matter. Historically if she made the wrong choice her very survival and that of any potential offspring were at extreme risk, so her biology and internal chemical message system is rigged to be attracted to men who show certain alpha dominant traits. You show those traits and you're sexual attractiveness skyrockets. And her entire perception of who you are as a man is framed in the first few minutes (actually seconds) of your initial connection.

When you first notice her show dominance by making direct eye contact while showing a sincere smile and hold it for about 3 seconds. If attracted she will return the smile and glance away within that time frame. If instead of glancing to the side or returning her gaze back to her friends she glances down first, she's showing she recognizes your dominance with a submissive subconscious reaction. That's a signal your gaze and smile triggered the first spark of attraction.

At that point it's important to further demonstrate your confidence and dominance by immediately making a direct approach. The point isn't to engage her fully but simply to show you're interested as well as unafraid and to make a quick good first impression and nothing more. The best way to insure you come across as dominant (thus a sexual man) and not just gaming her is to make a connection and then break it off quickly and give her time to wonder about you.

Attraction is very much not much more than a form of curiosity. You can continue the conversation later and it will be easier and even more welcome if you make your initial contact and then give her space and time.

A dominant man shows no fear of approaching a woman, so you must move in for the initial contact right away once she's shown the signs of submissive attraction, no matter how attractive she may be. In fact, a dominant man demonstrates more of that quality the more attractive she is, as it also signifies her beauty is not in the least intimidating.

When you make an quick initial contact and then leave and go about your own socializing or whatever you were doing for a while, you're signaling you're independent, busy and sociable. It also reverses the pattern she's used to where it's obvious when a guy is trying to hit on her, he'll often overstay that initial welcome, even if she showed a slight bit of initial interest. So be the exception and give her space and time to wonder and the attraction will build.

It's also important to be mindful of body posture as a dominant male shows it most clearly with a tall erect stance. One way to take on that kind of posture is to imagine a steel cable running through your head into your spine pulling up as if it's attached to a crane overhead. Stride (do not walk or shuffle) directly to her and say literally anything without self-doubt as you already know she's shown the first signals of attraction. Something as simple as "Hi, Only have a minute, but just want to make sure you didn't get away before we had a chance to meet." Give her a minute to reply, then excuse yourself, mention you might like to talk a bit later and return to whatever you were doing before you noticed her. And that's it.

Later you can reengage her to get her number or start a deeper conversation and you'll find she'll likely be far more warm as while you were busy elsewhere, if you did it right, she'll have been thinking about you or watching you out of the corner of her eye waiting for you to return, if she doesn't approach you herself. She might as you made the required initial response which gives her permission in her own mind to do so without feeling she's being overly assertive and unfeminine.

That simple and brief encounter sets up the chemistry and initial flutters of sexual butterflies which is the whole point and what is most critical to establish the frame of all future interactions with her. Attraction is sparked and you've established yourself as a sexually confident man.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Is Online Dating the Answer If You Want a Girlfriend?

Wanting a girlfriend can be a confusing thing, because the more you want one, the harder it seems to be able to actually attract one. Not only that, you might also feel like you really don't have many options to turn to if you are looking to meet women, so that can make things seem harder. One of the things that you might consider is to try your hand at online dating. You've probably heard that there are many couples that have met that way and it might make you wonder if that is going to be the answer for you.

So, is online dating the answer if you want a girlfriend?

It may be. The one thing that you shouldn't do is to think that it is the ONLY option for you. I think it is a great thing to try out, but you shouldn't close yourself off to other possibilities. There are so many available places to go to meet women, that it would be a shame to close yourself off to all of them just because online dating sounds like a good choice.

Here are some tips that will help you out if you do want to use online dating sites to try to find a girlfriend:

1. Your profile is going to make or break you most of the time.

If there is one reason why some guys get no attention on dating sites and some guys get lots of attention, I'd say that it all comes back to the strength of their online dating profile. The sexier it is, the more it attracts attention, the more likely it is that you are going to end up attracting a woman who you'll be able to go out on a date with. This is not something that you want to take lightly. Spend some time sprucing that profile up if you want to attract female eyes.

2. Learn to use emotion in your writing.

You are going to do some writing if you try your hand at dating online. You are going to use writing in your actual profile, and you are also going to use writing when you first communicate with a woman. Being able to use emotion is key, because it is way too easy to write things that come across as being totally bland and boring. If you happen to get the chance to instant message a woman, you want to knock her socks off, not bore her to tears. So, you might want to practice your writing a bit, so that you don't run the risk of coming across kind of boring.



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7 Ways To Date A Cougar

Many people may wonder how to date a cougar. If you are looking for a cougar there are many reasons why one would stick out in the crowd. When people think of a cougar, they often think of a beautiful, sophisticated woman with a high sexual libido. Women that are older know more of what they want in a relationship including their desires and needs.

Men's sexual stamina is at top peak in their 20's, but when men get older their sexual stamina tends to slow where a women's is just coming in full when they hit the 30's and 40's age range. Women along with men hit a mid-life crisis where they want to have the feeling of being young again. Women think about the younger generation and start thinking about being with younger men. Many younger men are free without strings attached unlike older men. They have an outgoing personality and like to explore new things. If you are a man who has wondered how to date a cougar here are some tips to use.

1. Treat Her Very Well

Treat her good all the time and she will take more interest in you. Give her many compliments about the way she acts looks and dresses, be polite and courteous to her, take notice in the little details about her.

2. Make Her Feel Young

Make her feel like she is young by treating her as if you would treat a woman your same age. Try not to let her age come into account when you are out with her. Compliment her with things such as her intelligence.

3. Look for Places to Find Cougars

Go to dating websites and other places where cougars may be waiting to meet someone. Dating websites will allow you to be in the comfort of your own home while finding that special person. Most of the time on a dating site, you will not have to try hard because they will be waiting to come to you.

4. Offer Her Brand New Experiences

Try giving her new experiences that she never had when she was younger. There are many ways to make the relationship interesting in this way. Take her skydiving, to a concert, or something else that she wished she would have did before.

5. Do not be too Controlling

Women that are older and more independent do not like it when a guy comes into their life and orders them around. Try to be thoughtful and take her opinions into account.

6. Give her that Young Feeling Again

Think of activities that will make her feel like she is young once more such as going out together with friends that are of a younger age or another event.

7. Make sure your Expectations are Alike

Talk and make sure you have things in common and think the same. This is good to know you have the same feelings about issues. Get to know what she wants from the relationship, so you know that you want to continue being with her.

These tips will help someone to learn how to date a cougar. Each individual will have their own way of doing this, but any information that will help will be a useful advantage.

Dating Advices

Dating

Looking for dating tips or dating advice? It can be difficult to find people in your life to date if you do not know where to look or how to go about it. Here are some things you can do to start a relationship with someone new today.

Go Out Often

One dating tip is to just go out often with friends to clubs and other places where people hang out. This is an easy way to meet someone new and you can easily start a relationship with a new person. If you do not go out it is going to be difficult to meet new people in your life. Visit coffee shops, go to movies, visit a bar, go to the library, and so on. Just strike up casual conversations with people you meet. Take the dog to a park and you will be amazed at how many people come up to you and want to know more about you and your dog. People love animals and it is a natural ice breaker when you have a pet with you to talk to someone new.

Be Yourself

If you want to start a relationship with someone and you are dating for the first time then there is one thing you can do to make the date go well. The best piece of dating advice you can get is to just be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone you are not to impress someone else. Just relax and be yourself on the date. It is not a good idea to pretend to be someone you are not because the other person will find out eventually. This is good relationship advice so use it when out there dating.

Try online dating

One of the best dating tips you can use it to try online dating. Some people might think this is poor dating advice but it is easier to meet people online. When dating online you do not have the pressure of that first date and you can spend a long time getting to know someone before you actually go out on a date. You can chat and discuss your life with the other person and find out if you are a match or not. This is a great way to start a new relationship. One dating tip for online dating is to make sure you have a recent decent image of yourself when you join a dating site. Make sure that you fill out your information fully and provide a good profile so people can find out what you are all about.

Avoid Games

Perhaps the biggest piece of relationship advice you can get is to pay attention to the feelings of the other persona and avoid all the games. No one wants to be misled in a relationship or have their emotions toyed with. Keep this dating tip in mind when meeting new people.

You Can Meet and Date People With Ease

When dating just be yourself and have fun. Be sure you go our often and do not play games with people's emotions. Use this dating advice and you will find someone new and hopefully have a lasting relationship with that person.