Basic Dating Do's and Do Not's: Just in Case You Don't Already Know

Everyone has had their experience with a bad date here and there. Maybe you didn't feel the chemistry with that person or you just could not get a good conversation going without it being awkward. It can really be frustrating at times, but it should not stop you from going on to meet new people and hopefully find that right one. Let's look at what the basic dating do's and don'ts are just in case you really don't know.

Don't date someone that you don't feel an attraction to. People will tell you all sorts of things, but date people that you like. He or she may have a great car or they may be extremely good looking, but if they are not your type, don't do it. Just because someone is nice looking does not mean you're going to be into them. Follow your gut and go with dating someone that you really feel that genuine attraction to.

Don't look at other guys or girls that you find attractive when you are out on a date. It's not only rude but it's not a very smart idea. If you want to be looking at other people, you should have gone out on your own instead of on a date. Be into the person you're on a date with and focus your attention on them.

Do feel confident on your date and do have a great time. Be a bit flirty and have an open and fun conversation with your date. Don't act like you're all clingy and need attention because that's going to be a turn off for your date. Relax and enjoy the company of your date. Show your date how interesting you can be and how much fun you are.

Dating agencies can be great ways to meet people too. When using dating agencies to meet someone there are some do's and don'ts you should keep in mind as well.

Do give the dating agency an up to date picture of yourself and one that shows you smiling. Someone looking for a date wants to see a person who looks happy and looks like they are fun to be around.

Do give the dating agency a unique profile about yourself. Give some interesting details so someone wants to find out a lot more about you and always say positive things.

Don't tell your date that you are tired of the dating scene or tell them about all your bad dates. Try to always say positive things with your new date.

Don't talk about your ex's. This is a no-no on a date. This is going to give your date the impression that you are not over the ex and not ready to move on. Keep the conversation on the both of you and learning about each other.

All in all, go out and have a great time on your date. Relax, have fun and learn all you can about this potential next person in your life.

Singles Say Random Facts About Themselves on Dating Sites Are Not a Good Practice

Similar to resumes for jobs, dating profiles have a tendency to be exaggerated by the users creating it. This is not too surprising in order to garner interest from the opposite sex and make the profile as pleasing as possible. In some cases, the users put up pictures of their youthful days and this can be as much as ten years! Perhaps most people's thinking behind these actions is to first get a male or female single interested in them and hopefully they will see the 'other side' of your redeeming qualities. However, one could argue that if the initial dissection of your profile was unimportant, then why do it in the first place?

In all honesty, it is always a good idea to be truthful upfront and then you don't have to make lame excuses during the date. Can you imagine, when you strike up a conversation about something during a date, you are fumbling to find a good excuse. You can come across as someone who is not always truthful and your dating partner may even consider you to be somewhat deceitful which can hinder the development of trust between the two. Often men can be forgiving of women who lie about their age since they understand how hard it is for them to attract men of their own age or younger. Some men are blessed with genes that make them look far younger than they are and lying about their age can also be forgiven by other women. Equally some men can look far older than their generation and in that respect they have a bit more convincing to do with their dating partner:-).

What many singles don't understand is that they can make their profile much more appealing without having to resort to fudging the dating profile in the online dating sites. Here are some examples:

1. Age
If you are concerned about you being too old or too young then there are tips you can use to convey to other members that 'age is all in the mind'. Here you need to highlight activities that does not in any way become representative of your age. Show the numerous activities that reveals your energy level and convey to the user the message that your interests and activities will continue into old age. Remember some young people can behave exceptionally lethargic and lazy and be less active than a typically older person. These qualities are not very appealing to many women or men for that matter.

2. Photo
If you have ever seen photos of yourself, you will find that you can look very different from one picture to another. This is mainly because of the lighting and angles at which photos were taken. You can easily take flattering photos of yourself by taking the shots in a natural setting. Make sure to take photos with outdoor light if possible and when the sun is not too high. Also use zoom with a higher aperture setting to make the face more flattering by blurring out the background. Try and experiment with pictures of yourself wearing various outfits since some colors can accentuate your face and looks. Have a photo session with your friend or friends, it can be fun and very productive. Remember photos can reveal a lot about you and not just the age, it can reveal your energy level, temperament and many other things related to your personality.

3. Content
Some people forget the importance of content. It is very surprising to find many users in online dating sites that fail to completely fill up their profile. This can send the wrong message to serious users who may think that life is too much of a rush for you and you may treat your dating partner in the same manner. Give careful thought as to what you want to say and by all means use buzzwords to attract attention. You can highlight the 'doing' stuff with words like 'love', 'excited', 'passionate' etc.

It's not necessary to fib on your dating profile in online dating sites when it comes to age, photos or any other content. There are many ways that you can make your profile more appealing without having to resort to such tactics. With some imagination and creativity you can easily make your profile very attractive to the opposite sex that points to your many redeeming qualities.

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Signs He Is Cheating Online

Online dating has increased our dating options but it has also opened up opportunities for cheating. Online cheating (as with ALL cheating) starts as emotional cheating where your man begins to share his feelings, dreams and hopes with another... and then progressively begins to be sexually stimulated by his online partner through sexy messages or images. The relationship may then progress to a meeting with her so that they can physically consummate a relationship that has already been consummated online. So how do you guard yourself from online cheating? How can you tell whether he is cheating online or not? What are the signs that he is cheating online?

1.Changing online habits. A man who starts to cheat on you online will change his online habits to match his new interest.

Increased secrecy! Since he is cheating on you then he will be increasingly secretive when he is online. He may suddenly shut down the computer or the window that he was engrossed in when you come close enough to see the computer screen. He may move the computer and place it in such a way that you can no longer easily see the screen or surprise him by your sudden appearance. When he is online and you come close to the screen he quickly shuts down 1 or more windows on some pretext... and it happens every single time. This is a clear sign that he is doing something online that he doesn't want you to know about.

Increased time online.The computer is his new best friend... and he neglects you to spend time with it. Whatever time he once spent on you is now spent with the computer. You may feel rather foolish since you are actually jealous of a computer... and he may play that card to get you to back off.

2.Diminished interest in you but more sex after his computer sessions. A man that is getting his emotional needs met somewhere else no longer needs to discuss things in depth like he used to do with you. You will feel very confused because on one hand there will be an emotional distance between the two of you but on the other hand he may want more sex since his online interest is arousing him. The sex will thus be mainly to fulfill his own needs... and he will often come already aroused by his online interest.

3.He smiles and sings like he did when you started dating. A man who is cheating on you online will be inexplicably happy... and dreamy. He may be with you physically but you will see him smile to himself as he reflects on something that made him happy... the other online woman. If you ask him why he is smiling he will give you some lame story that would not make any rational person smile.

If you see a number of these signs without a reasonable explanation then know that he may be cheating on you online... or watching pornography that he thinks that you would not approve of.

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Perfect First Date Ideas

So you've managed to get that first date with that special someone, but now you have the pressure of planning it. However planning a first date doesn't have to be stressful all you have to remember is that a first date should allow for good conversation and most of all be fun so you and your date remember it.

Here are a few ideas of things you could do for a first date.

Dinner and a Movie - it's simple but effective, it allows for good conversation in a time frame that isn't too long that you run out of things to say. The dinner allows for you to get to know each other and the movie allow you to have something to discuss at the end of the date or maybe the second date (Also allows both of you to get close i.e. hold hands or maybe a kiss only if both of you are comfortable with that).

Aquarium, Museum or Gallery- Allows you to take your time and see something new as well as have something to talk about or have an opinion on. This could also lead to a dinner date after which is good as you will always have something to talk about (i.e. what was your favorite fish etc) if you run out of things to say.

Go on a ghost tour - It's new and not many people do it for a first date therefore make the date more special as well as unique. It will give you something fun to do as well as be memorable and give you something to talk about on future dates or at dinner if you go for a bite to eat after. A good thing about ghost tours is that it allows you and your date to get close either due to cold weather to keep each other warm or just because your date get scared (brilliant way to break the touch barrier).

Ice Skating - Perfect winter date as it's fun and exciting also an active date and therefore memorable. Ice skating together also allows both of you to get close as you can hold hands as you go round the rink or simply help each other stay up.

Whenever planning that first date keep in mind what both of you like. If both of you like films go see a movie, if you both like comedy go to a comedy club, if you're both into live music go to a gig (I think you get the picture now). If you go to something you both like you will enjoy it's more enjoyable and both of you will be relaxed and comfortable in each others presence and hopefully lead to more dates in the future.

Is Your Date Looking For A Relationship Or A Fling?

Most singles are looking for a relationship but there are a few who just want a fling. A relationship is someone who cares about you and wants you to be a part of their life, while a fling is someone looking for a good time or a one night stand.

They are ready to move on to the next date after they've had their fun with you. When you are putting your profile together for the dating site, make sure you specify relationship material. That doesn't always work, but it helps weed out the one nighters.

Always meet your first date at a well-lit place preferably inside a restaurant or coffee shop and keep your first date short. Don't let him talk you into going to his apartment or motel. Make up an excuse or go the bathroom and leave without him knowing it.

It is dangerous leaving with a complete stranger that's trying to push you into doing something against your will. This type of date is a fling. The type you are looking for is interested in you, your hobbies, pets and kids if you have any, and will show you respect.

He will call you again for another date and it will lead to more dates and then he will want you to become a part of his life. He will call you to see how you're doing and will want you to meet his friends and family. That means he definitely wants a serious relationship with you.

You never hear from the one-nighters after the first date, especially if they couldn't get to first base with you. If someone like that persists and keeps calling harassing you, then you need to go to the authorities. Never give your physical address to anyone until you've known them awhile.

When you meet someone like that, you have to take control and put a stop to their actions. Sometimes it's tough trying to control a date that just wants a fling, but it's for your safety. Always have your car keys and cell phone handy.

If you need to make a quick exit, you'll be ready to get away from this guy. If you have to dig in the bottom of your purse, you'll never get away and then you'll feel trapped. If you were matched with a one-nighter, call the dating service and complain. Most single guys you date are respectful and act like a gentleman, but there are a few wild ones. You will know before the night is over, if your date is looking for a relationship or fling.

Signs He Is Emotionally Immature

Do you have serious misgivings about your relationship? Having a relationship with an emotionally immature partner is very similar to having a relationship with a child or a teen. He may be grown up physically but emotionally he is still a child... or teenager. What are the signs that he is emotionally immature?

i. He throws temper tantrums! Yes, we all get angry but an emotionally immature man will get so angry that he simply cannot function... he is that upset. And he will stay angry like that until he gets what he wants.

ii. He wants what he wants right NOW! An emotionally immature man cannot forgo anything today. Whatever he wants... he wants it now. Forgoing certain pleasures today so that together you can build a better future is not something he will do or even want you to do. He lives for today... and only for today.

iii. His mouth spews abuse and filth in an out of control manner. An emotionally undeveloped man simply cannot control his speech. When he is angry he will be completely mean and hurtful to you (or those who have upset him).

iv. He is selfish to the extreme. An emotionally immature man is by definition selfish and self centered. He expects you to do things for him... and he will rarely ever think about you. He rarely does anything for you... but he expects you to do things for him.

v. He is easily upset. An emotionally undeveloped man has no emotional shock absorbers so a whole lot of things upset him. Everything said that may be interpreted in a negative way he has the amazing ability of personalizing as an insult to him.

vi. He sulks and refuses to eat or talk to you. A man who is still emotionally young will cut you off emotionally when he is upset... until you come and plead for his forgiveness. And his forgiveness must be earned so a simply apology may not do it... you may have to continue soothing him with words until he consents to reconnecting with you.

vii. He NEVER apologizes! An emotionally immature man just cannot apologize for anything... even when he is clearly wrong. If it is clear that he is wrong then he will find a way to brush away his role in the wrong. To get an apology from him is akin to pulling teeth... and if it is given it will be framed in an inappropriate manner (to minimize the fact that he is wrong).

An emotionally immature man is emotionally exhausting to be in a relationship with as you bear the emotional weight of the relationship by yourself. Some emotionally immature men mature with time especially when children come into the relationship but some never mature emotionally... and they drain and exhaust you.

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How To Have Awesome Phone Conversations

If there's one thing that guys fear the most when it comes to Online Dating, it's that FIRST phone conversation.

Sure it's easy to write messages to women from the comfort of your own keyboard but you can't do that forever because eventually you MUST meet up with her in person.

Now, as I mentioned in other articles, there is a way to meet up with women without talking to them on the phone but there's always some girls who do want to chat before meeting in person.

That's OK... and it's nothing to fear!

You just need to be prepared when speaking on the phone and it's crucial that you follow all the "rules."

What are the secret "rules" for phone conversations with women?

Here's my list and make SURE you pay attention because if you don't, you'll screw it up and you WON'T be meeting her in person.

1. Avoid Neediness! - This should go without saying but neediness will KILL attraction every time! Always avoid needy behavior by demonstrating you're a HIGH value guy. If she starts to suspect you don't have a lot of options and you're placing too much importance on her... it's game over!


2. Phone Scheduling - Be sure you have an idea of her schedule and know the best times to call her so she'll ANSWER, eliminating the need to leave her a message. There are certain times in the evening that are IDEAL for placing calls because you know she will be home. Be sure and take advantage of that.


3. Have a Script - Now I'd rather you NOT memorize an entire phone conversation and recite it like you're giving a speech once you get her on the phone. That would come off as fake, and it will make you too nervous. But it helps to have an idea of what you're going to talk about. Write up some notes if you have to... (Hey, even George Costanza did this with success.)


4. Always Keep It Fun! - Make sure you keep the conversation light hearted and positive. Women are emotional creatures and WILL become MORE attracted to you if you make them laugh consistently! It's important to keep the positive momentum going that you had from emails. Did one of your messages really get her going?? Go back to that and use the same humor!


5. Avoid buzz killers! - When chatting on the phone, you always want to avoid those "buzz killing" topics like ex-girlfriends, a bad day at work, a recent death in the family, what's wrong with the world, economy etc, politics... really anything bad that's happened recently. Remember, it's all about positive momentum and nobody likes a "buzz kill."


6. Don't Talk Too Much! - That's right, if you're one of those that likes to talk about yourself all the time, try and curb it when talking to her on the phone. The ideal conversation is really about 75% her and 25% you. Now this will vary at times because of different personality types but you want to guide the conversation into fun positive directions and avoid dominating it.


7. Be Busy On The Phone - What I mean by this is try and be involved in something while talking to her on the phone. You know how women ALWAYS do this to guys... well do it right back! Women will often be driving, shopping, working out or something similar while chatting with guys. Well, you can do the same by being on your computer, working in the garage, or whatever while talking to her. It keeps the energy level high and also contributes more to the conversation. It also helps to avoid those awkward silences.


8. Keep It Short! - There's no need to have a first phone conversation go over fifteen minutes or so. In fact, even shorter is better. If you really hit it off then it's OK to go longer but typically you want to keep it brief. The best thing to do is get her laughing and then get off during a high point in the conversation. It takes some practice but once you perfect this art, you'll have a lot more success.


9. Talk Slowly - What I mean by this is talk with confidence and swagger. In most cases, talking fast assumes nervousness and you want to avoid that. Talk like you're chatting with a friend.


10. Know How To Leave a Message - Back before cell phones we had to worry about leaving messages on her machine every time we called her. Now we only need to do it once and that's after the first phone call. (This assumes you did not text her first.) When you do leave a message be sure it's quick, clear and to the point. Don't try and get cute as that will come off too "try hard."

Ok, there are your first phone conversation rules. Stick to them and you'll have her begging to meet you in person!!

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