Top 5 Speed Dating Tips for Men

There are some general things men should keep in mind when entering into the world of speed dating. Although everyone is an individual, the ritual of dating in society today has not changed much from other eras. Men and women interact socially with certain basic expectations and values that we judge each other by when dating. Since the goal of speed dating is to narrow the selection process more quickly than regular dating, then the same expectations are held to even higher standards of scrutiny.

With this in mind, these are the Top 5 speed dating tips for men that can help with this process.

Have a clear idea of what you want in a dating partner ahead of time. You should think about what your honest likes and dislikes are before you enter into the dating circle. You will be meeting several women very briefly, and you should know what deal breakers are for you. This way you can narrow the field of the women you meet more readily. It will make the process easier and quicker for you as a male.

Be open minded to different types of women and how they appear during that first impression. Even if your likes are very specific, you may find yourself attracted to a woman that does not fit your general mould. Allow for this, sometimes you meet someone unique and should be open to all types of women.

Take time to look your best to make a good first impression. Be clean, dressed your best, and maybe even get a haircut before you enter the dating circle. You will be meeting each of these women for just a few minutes and want to make a lasting first impression. Most women expect decent hygiene and will judge you upon your outward appearance. Do not blow this off, it is very important.

Remember that women will be watching for cues from your body language. Be attentive and alert. Present your best version of yourself up front, as you only have a few minutes to do so. Body language is very crucial to most women; therefore you do not want to give conflicting signals in this way. Not being aware of your body language can cause you to give mixed messages, even if unintentionally.

Be confident, but more importantly be honest. Women want a man who is sure of himself. Intelligence is less important than self esteem. Women seek a man who is sure of himself but not arrogant. Above all when answering questions and talking about you be honest. A first impression based on false information will only lead to giving an untruthful impression of you.

With these things in mind, you should be able to have an enjoyable and successful experience. No matter what, remember dating is a learning experience. Every date leads you closer to the goal of finding friendship and love. It can take a little time and practice, but in the end, the rewards are well worth it.

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Dating Women - Six Tips to Create An Unforgettable Date

Nowadays, asking women out is not as complicated as say ten or twenty years ago. While some men may find it difficult to pull off the perfect night for their perfect women, most would say that starting with the basics help. So in order to help you, here are the answers to those questions of how to date women.

KISS

Do the KISS. But no, this is not the actual kiss that I'm referring to, because KISS stands for as Keep It Short and Sweet. This refers to how you will ask women to go out with them, of course. Dispense with the theatrics, say it outright and say it like you mean it.

Be on time

Make sure to be on time, or at least ten to fifteen minutes early. Women appreciate it when men can't seem to wait to be with them and there is no worst way to start a date than to be coming in late--rushing and sweating like you've just ran twelve blocks in the middle of a hot summer day. Remember, you did the asking so you owe it to her to be there before she does.

Dress the right way

Wear something nice and presentable. It's always been said that women know more than men as far as how to date women are concerned and are more particular with what they wear, whether they're going to the movies or a royal soiree, they put as much thought into their clothes as much as their shoes, bag, makeup and even those tiny lace things underneath. Of course, as in everything, there is no other way to impress a lady than by dressing appropriately.

Research

Do your research and act on it, as if your life depends on it. That may be a bit over dramatic but whether it's a casual bowling night with both your friends or an intimate dinner for two at a posh restaurant, make sure it's something both of you will enjoy. Group dating is also a good idea, for it removes any awkwardness that you will feel with each other, especially if this is just your first meeting.

Turn off your mobile devices

Go primitive and turn off anything that beeps, rings or rattles loudly. Interruptions, just when you two are getting to know each other, or worse just when she is warming up to you are quite annoying not to mention rude so make sure that before you walk in, your phone is set on mute. Women are like business prospects, you have to show you're something worth the risk you get them to agree to invest in you and whatever assets you think you may have.

Be polite

Don't forget the magic words - and I don't mean the L word. Always say please, thank you, or you're welcome and be polite with some other people, too, like the waiter, the cab driver, and even with the girl that is flirting on you. Do not be rude to anyone, because women cannot stand these kinds of men, and it will just make them feel like you are uneducated.

Last but not the least is the golden rule in the modern world's book of how to date women - relax, smile and pay. And finally, the most important things to take note when it comes on how to date women, is to relax, smile and pay for the bill. And when you do, do it well whether it's the bill or the attention that the woman deserves. Remember again, you did the asking and so you owe it to the dear girl to show your appreciation by making sure she has a lovely time, even if you don't.

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Inner Game Over Outer Game: Build Yours Today

Inner game is how you feel about yourself, but most importantly your self-talk. Unfortunately, most people look to improve their outer game first. Outer game being how you present/ carry yourself, and above all else, how you talk to girls. One of the most searched phrases on Google is "how to talk to girls." Let me make myself absolutely clear: if you're not a natural i.e. Don juan, casanova, etc. or 1% of the male population, work on your inner game first rather than your outer game.

What person will love you, if you don't love yourself? Another interesting statistic, "90% of people that pick up dating materials (the game, double your dating, etc.) fail at getting good with women." Why? Because those books and most of the other ones focus on outer game. They use techniques, peacock methods, formulaic approaches, and various ways to "open sets" rather than working on the real problems within. Rather than building the confidence up in the person.

My solutions for the best Inner Game (More to follow in other posts but the main one's here. You can just scroll down and read each number rather than reading each and every summary):

1) Identify any and all weaknesses that you have

Take some time to think and write down on a piece of paper what you're weaknesses are. For example, maybe you don't like talking to people. Or maybe you feel like you're weight is an issue. Right them all down. Get them off your chest. We'll call this List 1.

2) Summarize your weakness into one word and list all of them (List 2)

On this list write down 5-10 ways to improve or possible solutions for this weakness. Now save List 2 and burn List 1. That's right, destroy it. Rip it up. Shred it. Stomp it. Do all the above, spit on it for all I care. These weaknesses are now gone and only solutions remain.

3) Take sometime and close your eyes

Imagine in your head what this new person looks like without said weaknesses and see the new you! See yourself doing things that you couldn't have done before. Let this be the moment that you have good luck and only good things happen from here.

4) Embrace Your Solutions

Now that you have 5-10 solutions per weakness, start working on them. This is the main reason why most people's issues go unsolved. They run from their problems and even potential solutions for those problems-hit them head-on.

5) Suck up your pride and Seek Help

We all know one person that is good at what we fail at. Hopefully a solution to one of your weaknesses is "get advice from Joe, Tom, or Susan" etc. You might be terrible at soccer; ask a friend for some help and tips. You might be a real critical, negative person; seek out the most happy go lucky person you know. You might be a terrible money manager; seek me out! If you have no one to go to, email me or Oprah..we'll tandem solve your problem if possible.

These 5 solutions are the tip of the sword. I can't emphasize enough to embrace your issues, weaknesses, and problems. Face them with some back bone and gall. Don't rationalize anything in life anymore. I'll continue with more techniques for solid Inner Game later.

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Can He Really Make You Happy?

You know why happiness is called an inside "job"... 'cause it really takes some doin' to keep ourselves happy doesn't it? And it takes some serious effort if you're trying to keep/make someone else happy. In fact, it is truly counterproductive to try to keep/make a man happy, or rely on him to make you happy.

In the long run, you'll both end up disappointed and resenting the other because you relied on each other for your happiness, instead of looking within. Neither of you can stand on your head in enough ways to keep each other feeling good all the time. It is a futile attempt, and definitely detrimental to your health and sex life in the long run.

Dr. Joseph Murphy in his book "The Power of Your Subconscious Mind" said "A woman is not dependent on her husband (insert your own title if you prefer, i.e. boyfriend, partner, date) for health, peace, joy, inspiration, guidance, love, wealth, security, happiness, or anything in the world. Her security and peace of mind come from her knowledge of the powers within her & from the constant use of the laws of her own mind in a constructive fashion."

Bottom line... No one can make you happy. It is your work and your work alone. Happiness is a state of mind, and you have the freedom to choose happiness. Happiness is your natural state of being. When you realize that no one other than yourself is responsible for how you feel you will find true happiness. If you believe that others are responsible for your happiness, you are in self-bondage, because you cannot control how others feel or how they behave. You have complete control over how you feel, and if you are to remain or return to the happy being you are naturally, you must tend to the alignment between you & You (your inner being/Source).

When you really care about someone it is no small undertaking to not hold them responsible for how you feel, but you just have to let them off the hook. You are the attractor of your experience. No one can keep you amused & happy day in and day out and you should not require their constant approval or attention to be happy with yourself. Allow them to be as they "be," while you tend to your own vibration, and watch your power of influence in your relationship. You will find your relationship delicious & satisfying. And if you have tended to your vibration on a regular basis, and he is not in harmony with your vibration he will naturally gravitate out of your experience and a new more satisfying relationship will move into your experience.

Two people who come together knowing that they are responsible for their own happiness, and seeking alignment with themselves first, is the making of a co-creative relationship that will satisfy you both to no end.

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How To Ask A Girl Out Without Fear Of Rejection

Information on how to ask a girl out without risking rejection is hard to find.

This is a shame, because the fact is that most men fear rejection more than they fear any kind of physical threat. It's irrational, but very real.

If only it were possible to eliminate the possibility of rejection when you ask a girl out.

In fact this is easier than you may think, but, as with all things, only at a price. And the price is to use a combination of self-control, patience and perseverance.

Why this combination? Because rejection only comes in an artificial environment, where you haven't taken the trouble to get to know the girl, to become interested in and concerned for her.

When you've done your homework, you'll know whether she'll go out with you before you ask. So let's examine the situation.

How well do you know the girl right now? Do you speak with her every day as a friend or work colleague, or have you only ever seen her from a distance and never spoken at all? Most likely it's somewhere in between.

Do you have any mutual friends or work colleagues from whom you can surreptitiously learn more about her, whether she already has a boyfriend, and so on?

Try to establish what her answer would be without actually asking her. You may get to this point early on, or it may take some time. This is where the power of patience plays a hand.

The key here is to avoid actually asking her out, or even hinting that you'd like to date her, while at the same time making sure you see her as often as possible and that you make a good impression on her when you do.

Don't make it obvious, though, for example by constantly looking at her or trying to flirt (unless she flirts with you). That might work sometimes, but more often it just puts her off.

Let things happen naturally. If she's not interested in you then she'll let you know indirectly, in which case you'll just have to accept it.

But if she does show an interest, then be prepared to allow things to take their course. You can't force the pace - that would probably spoil your chances of getting her as a girlfriend.

When you talk with her, always be willing to let her choose the topic, which will often be herself and her particular problems, hopes and fears. Be reluctant to talk about yourself unless she wants you to.

Never try to get physical unless you're satisfied she wants you to. Always leave her wanting a little bit more of you.

Before long, mutual friends are bound to make comments about the two of you, and you'll probably be able to gauge from them whether she'd like to go out with you.

If that's positive then your fear of rejection can be put behind you. Even so, don't crash in and bluntly ask her out the next time you see her. Let it just happen, when you've a moment alone together.

Give her a good reason to say "yes", such as attending an event that you know she'll enjoy, and take it from there.

That's how to ask a girl out.

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Two Main Ingredients - Why Relationships Fail

Everyone has had a relationship at least once in their life. That "love" feeling is so wonderful until that day comes when you break apart. After the illusion of what you thought a relationship should be, the wall comes up to protect yourself. Love and relationships are challenging that is for sure. People become fearful of commitment, afraid of being rejected, and the games begin. In all actuality, it's the fear that keep us in problematic relationships.

The two main ingredients, other than fear, is lack of honesty and communication;however, each go hand in hand. The relationship dynamics has changed, this is true, but lack of honesty along with lack of communication has always been a problem. The idea is if you are honest with someone, then you will hurt their feelings. Sorry to say, but that is the biggest cop out. There is obviously some hidden agenda; whereas, most people don't want to be alone so they settle for what they have.

The only relationship that is most important is the relationship with yourself. Everything comes from "self" so if you are dishonest with yourself, than you will continue to attract dishonest people.

If everyone understood that one simple truth than life would be so different. The real truth here is that we are all responsible for our lives. We create our own outcomes. All we have to do is acknowledge it and know that if someone doesn't like you it doesn't matter. Not everyone accepts you for you. All you do is realize it's nothing personal and move on.

So many people deceive others because they can't be honest with themselves. Other people can't admit to it so they hide and ignore you and hope you will go away. The problem with that scenario is that everyone has lessons to learn. If you ignore what you need to do, it won't go away unless you handle it. All that happens is that same issue keeps popping up with new people who come into your life because challenges are lessons to be learned.

Because I am so honest, I have found that I scare people away. It's kind of amusing to me as it shows how many people hide from their truths. What is so hard about being honest and communicating your feelings? All honesty does is bring it back to you. Keeping someone around just in case the other person you are cheating with might not work out, only keeps the real person meant for you away. All you have to do is speak your truth and allow the Universe to send you a person who is right for you. Release relationships that are not working, because another door will not open until you close the first one.

If you want love in your life and a relationship that lasts, than take time for it to grow, and always be honest with your feelings. Communicate your desires instead of assuming what you think the other person is meaning. Lack of communication and being dishonest are the main ingredients of relationship disaster.

When something isn't working isn't it time for a change? Change your thoughts which change your life. Do something different and give it a try. You have nothing to lose and so much more to gain. Does that make sense?

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How To Flirt

The confident male knows that flirting is a key part of his arsenal when it comes to women. Flirting helps you build rapport with a women and makes her feel comfortable talking to you. Flirting also helps you get to know her so you can see if she even is someone you might want to talk to. When you flirt you should be creating an environment so the girl can associate you with being happy and laughing. This will help her feel more comfortable around you and safe as well. You want to use flirting as a way to getting her used to the idea of having you as a boyfriend or being romantic with you and gives her an opportunity as well to gauge her interest in you.

Flirting conversations are best started by either asking a question or making some type of statement or sharing your point of view. She needs to feel like she has connected with you on a variety of topis but also connected in more of a way then just two strangers who have recently met. There are not set topics I would say to talk about but you need to gauge the situation and try to keep the conversation interesting. Don't be afraid to smile and say hello to a women because most men probably do not even get to that point so h ave already made progress. Just ask simple non intrusive questions at first then try to establish a connection with similar interests.

I think that when flirting you need to remember to throw in some romantic type material here and there. Don't avoid topics like if she has a boyfriend or not or what type of guys she likes because these are the things that make you move from stranger to potential romantic figure in her mind. If you simply stand there and talk about how much you both love Longhorn Steakhouse for 20 minutes at some point you will just come off as another desperate stranger trying to talk to her. If you can tease her and talk to her like someone shes already comfortable with would do then you have given yourself an opportunity to talk more intimately with her. Flirting via texting can be good but you have to make sure and follow the number one rule and not become that guy who texts but is afraid to call because this is the worst type of guy and texting without talking in real life is the ultimate beta male trait.

Remember that flirting is the way to a lot of womens hearts so be sincere and they will see that!

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